Hi D,
Body dysmorphia is evil and eats away at your inner beliefs, I know I have had it (nothiong to do with breasts') , a dear friend put me in touch with the right people to help me, I do not know how it goes in Finland so I can only tell you what I did here in the UK, that said it took nearly 7 months to get my head right.
The last 2 post's from Mashtenn and Stevenator is exactly what my therapist said, so lets get on with it, this is what I was told I will only give you the basics and in no particual order.
Q= Question from therapist to me.
Q. What do you think you look like and why.
Q. Do you think people are looking at you, if you do why do you think that.
Q. If you could change anything about yourself what would it be and what would you do
Q. Do you think your dress sense is attracting the wrong attention.
Q. Are you openly drawing attention to yourself
Q. How do you feel when your inner self thinks you are exposed to ridicule.
There ia a lot more to it but these are the few questions I was asked, again I was in therapy for about 7 months.
One thing was asked which I found really helpful.
Ask yourself, when you walk down the street or go into a supermarket did you notice other people, (my example was) did you see the gentleman who only had one eye or a facial deformity, did you see the woman with on earm or leg, well no I said.
Response back to me - Exactly, in todays age no one really pays attention to anyone else, this is because they are so involved with themselves unless you really draw attention to yourself.
As Mashtenn says, you have to learn to filter out the idiots, also What Stevenator said you may have to adapt your attire to suit the moment, and somewhere in Finland there will be people who can assist with that, your application of make up also advice on dressing to suit the moment.
My friend, try to use the system if you do not it will only get worse and may lead to the unthinkable, seek help it worked for me.
Good luck to you.
Liz
xx
Body dysmorphia is evil and eats away at your inner beliefs, I know I have had it (nothiong to do with breasts') , a dear friend put me in touch with the right people to help me, I do not know how it goes in Finland so I can only tell you what I did here in the UK, that said it took nearly 7 months to get my head right.
The last 2 post's from Mashtenn and Stevenator is exactly what my therapist said, so lets get on with it, this is what I was told I will only give you the basics and in no particual order.
Q= Question from therapist to me.
Q. What do you think you look like and why.
Q. Do you think people are looking at you, if you do why do you think that.
Q. If you could change anything about yourself what would it be and what would you do
Q. Do you think your dress sense is attracting the wrong attention.
Q. Are you openly drawing attention to yourself
Q. How do you feel when your inner self thinks you are exposed to ridicule.
There ia a lot more to it but these are the few questions I was asked, again I was in therapy for about 7 months.
One thing was asked which I found really helpful.
Ask yourself, when you walk down the street or go into a supermarket did you notice other people, (my example was) did you see the gentleman who only had one eye or a facial deformity, did you see the woman with on earm or leg, well no I said.
Response back to me - Exactly, in todays age no one really pays attention to anyone else, this is because they are so involved with themselves unless you really draw attention to yourself.
As Mashtenn says, you have to learn to filter out the idiots, also What Stevenator said you may have to adapt your attire to suit the moment, and somewhere in Finland there will be people who can assist with that, your application of make up also advice on dressing to suit the moment.
My friend, try to use the system if you do not it will only get worse and may lead to the unthinkable, seek help it worked for me.
Good luck to you.
Liz
xx