(28-11-2011, 10:02 PM)dargona Wrote: by GRS do you mean genital reconstructive surgery? If so then I will be honest when it comes to this topic because I've given great and deep thought to this which is why it was difficult for me to come to a conclusion about what I wanted to pursue:
1.) I want my penis, there has never been a moment in my life when I honestly thought I would be better off without it.
2.) Having a vagina is of some interest to me (I wouldn't mind having one), however this usually involves the contradiction of case 1 above.
Hmm. Did this seem more or less interesting after being on PM?
(I don't know if you want comments in return - please tell me if you don't - I guess I just can't stop poking my nose in..)
Despite the much loved Japanese concept of futanari, I don't see how one could be constructed without interfering with concept 1 either!
As I've said before, a vagina is really only useful if you want penetrative sex, and whilst this could be obtained with the use of toys, the temptation to try the real thing could lead to serious marriage problems.
Seems like a big risk to me.
Quote:3.) Orchiectomy -- probably going to happen some day in my life as I have given thought to this, but only when I know I'm done having children. Of course this also brings on the debate of balancing Testosterone/Estrogen so at this point I'm probably going to have to consult with therapists/doctors and whatever is necessary to maintain the level of balance in which I'm now happy with.
Another candidate for a cost-benefit analysis... It's a long way off anyway, but I'm a strong believer in "if it aint broke, don't fix it". If you can be happy with what you achieve through PM and a good relationship with a loving family, why risk the
good striving for
perfection?
I'm not trying to start an argument or debate, so this is a
rhetorical question for you to ponder when you come to make this decision:If you get caught up using big pharma hormones, you would be risking your health, possibly your life, possibly your marriage, and for what, really?
I sometimes feel it's my role in life to challenge other people's ideas, really just to make them think things through from another angle to see if there is anything that they've missed.
When I worked in IT, I was the person they went to if they wanted to know what could go wrong with a plan. I was the "black hat" - (probably due to the pessimistic nature I had developed from years of gender anxiety) -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six_Thinking_Hats
Quote:Regarding all 3 of the cases above: it took me a good month after initially opening up to my wife before I finally realized that if I had been born hermaphrodite, with a more feminine-than-masculine appearance, it would be about the closest thing possible to representing how I've always felt.
This is why I feel I may have a completely different situation to deal with when compared to other TS/TG, I have never heard of anybody wanting to be hermaphrodite but honestly I've always wanted this on the inside, and will admit I used to love watching hermaphrodite porn and fantasizing about living that life (when I watched a lot more porn that is, heh!).
Yes - I admit the idea of being a [beautiful] woman with a functioning penis is extremely appealing, and I think is the ultimate that a TS with a happy married life could hope to be.
The problem is that the "conventional" TS community finds this anathema.
They are stuck in the mould of conventional stereotypes of male-female bodies, and just want to move from one box into the other, however unsuccessfully. The irony is that in striving for the goal of womanhood, by depriving their wives of their male love, they are committing the ultimate act of misogyny.
B.x