I had a big breakthrough with my wife yesterday. Up until this point wearing a bra was more of a kink than a necessity, but I have grown a little and feeling self-conscious in all of my shirts. I finally admitted to myself; I need a bra. And I need my wife's support. I decided on buying the one in the attached picture because it is advertised for guys but looks like a bra. And it has no seams, so it is invisible under my shirt. It is similar to the bra @shirazmn recommended earlier on this thread, but a little longer. Hope to get one of those soon.
So yesterday morning I got the nerve up to tell my wife. I told her she can't laugh at me. I held it up and said I needed something better than those tank tops under my t-shirts. She thought it was funny I told her not to laugh. Then she said something that really surprised me. She said, 'I don't think that is going to pull them in enough.' I replied, I guess we will find out today, wish me luck. Then it got me thinking, she must be thinking my breasts are a decent size.
I wore it all day out in public under a snug t-shirt. I know it is not a feminine looking bra, but it was great for me. Did exactly what I needed it to do. Finally, later that night I stood up and said, so what do you think?
She looked me up and down and said, actually that bra looks really good, she was skeptical it would have enough support. I told her I felt like I haven't looked this good in t-shirt in a long time. How much more confident I felt. I showed her how it was seamless so it couldn't be seen under my shirt. She said I did look better wearing it. She told me you can't have only one bra, go order a few more. a little while later I told her I felt like I have a whole drawer full of shirts I can finally start wearing again.
So I would say that was a good breakthrough with the wife. Although it doesn't look all that much like a bra, the wife sees it as one. We will both get used to the idea of me wearing a bra with these and maybe it will lead to more feminine bras occasionally in the future. I feel like the door just opened up.