[flamesabers]

Hey Flame, I'm not positive but it sounds like you're thinking breasts and the mind we have is a drawback to finding a companion because it's fair to think it's a turn off for most women. While that MAY be true, I think having a "mind like ours" is a real asset when seeking a companion - that goes for most of us here by the way. When I compare myself to other guys out there, I can tell I'm much more emotional / relational / connected / loving etc with my wife. If a girl gives you any chance at all, and she's gotten to know a few guys before so she has a little maturity, she might pick up on your more feminine attributes and find them to be a rather refreshing alternative to the jocks, neanderthals and narcissists she could find ogling her anywhere. You might not be able to compete with them on some levels but in other ways you have them beat handily. I'm a firm believer that there's someone for everyone; whenever you're ready.

It wasn't my intention to sound pessimistic. For the most part I agree with your assessment. I do have a nagging thought that if a woman is interested in being with someone who is more feminine, beyond the issue of hetrosexuality, why wouldn't she find another woman to be her companion?

In all honesty though, I think my personality more than my gender identity quirks or having breasts will be the biggest obstacle with me finding a female companion. I'm a private person and it is frequently difficult for me to get to know people and initiate friendships and other types of relationships. I'm so accustomed to being relatively alone it's a challenge to change my ways. I'm not trying to throw a pity party here, I'm just stating things as I see them.

I would like to share your belief there is someone for everyone. If that's the case, not only will she probably have to make the first move, she'll more than likely be the one chasing me instead of the other way around.