Hello breast friends,
There's been a lot of discussion about telling one's spouse or significant other about wanting to pursue NBE. However, I haven't really come across anything about how NBE has an impact with members who are single but are looking or will be looking for a significant other.
For those who are single:
Do you think pursuing NBE has had a impact (positive or negative) with trying to get a relationship? Also, has NBE changed the type of person you're looking for and what you want from the relationship?
Here's my take on the questions.
I'm not actively searching for someone, so NBE hasn't had an impact yet. I realize my pursuit of NBE may very well be a turn-off for a number of potential girlfriends. However, I don't think this is a major loss for me considering I would only want to be with someone who isn't bothered by my androgynous gender identity and expression.
I don't think NBE has had much headway with changing the type of person I'm looking for. Before NBE I didn't want to have children, so the probable loss of fertility is irrelevant for me. As far as sexual relations goes, I always have been conflicted about having a raging sex drive obsessed with porn and masturbation. Now that spearmint and pm has significantly tapered down my sex drive, I think I would be most compatible with a asexual female.
Even if I didn't pursue NBE, looking for someone who is accepting of gender nonconformity has been important for me. Prior to NBE, the big issue would be finding someone who isn't bothered my crossdressing. Ultimately I think the type of relationship I'm looking for would be like a Boston Marriage.
From Urban Dictionary, a Boston Marriage is:
Quote:A relationship with a strong emotional bond between two people based on friendship. It transcends a typical friendship, but is not romantic.
Anyone has thoughts or experiences they would like to share?
Flame
EXCELLENT question
also I think age has a lot to do with it, ie wives are more accepting as the older male realises something a little adrift,
But the younger generations now are far more accepting of all
Lesbian, bi, homosexual and trans and all mixtures inbetween, in fact quite a few seek out pan sexual people ,
Julie
Hmm... well I've recently gone from not even caring to making myself chasable. LOL.
Seriously I'm finding myself becoming much more open with my attractions and willing to give letting a guy find me a chance.
I'd say you're better off as a single (comparing most situations), when that time comes, you are out with what you really are, unless you choose to hide that part of yourself often.
If you meet someone with the girls out (or casually displayed) while you're out and about, they will know right away. You probably won't have to talk about it much. Take you or leave you.
I'm almost 50 and have only had 3 relationships in my life. I'm not sure NBE has made much difference in the kind of woman I'm seeking. I also do not expect to find another, have stopped looking, and still consider myself mostly a crossdresser. Thus, any woman I get involved with needs to be okay with the crossdressing regardless of whether or not I can somehow grow real, feminine breasts. Being overweight, I have always had moobs of a fairly large size so the women already have to be okay with that. As for sex drive, mine was taken from me years ago by Effexor. I took the drug for less than 2 years, haven't been on it for nearly 7 years, and nothing has improved. NBE herbs have, in recent times, seemed to kill what little bit of a sex drive I did have, but I think it has more to do with fatigue than anything.
(18-09-2013, 05:17 PM)tibetan113 Wrote: [ -> ]I'd say you're better off as a single (comparing most situations), when that time comes, you are out with what you really are, unless you choose to hide that part of yourself often.
If you meet someone with the girls out (or casually displayed) while you're out and about, they will know right away. You probably won't have to talk about it much. Take you or leave you.
I agree. I suppose one issue might be though whether it matters to the other person if the breast growth was intentional or not.
Hey Flame, I'm not positive but it sounds like you're thinking breasts and the mind we have is a drawback to finding a companion because it's fair to think it's a turn off for most women. While that MAY be true, I think having a "mind like ours" is a real asset when seeking a companion - that goes for most of us here by the way. When I compare myself to other guys out there, I can tell I'm much more emotional / relational / connected / loving etc with my wife. If a girl gives you any chance at all, and she's gotten to know a few guys before so she has a little maturity, she might pick up on your more feminine attributes and find them to be a rather refreshing alternative to the jocks, neanderthals and narcissists she could find ogling her anywhere. You might not be able to compete with them on some levels but in other ways you have them beat handily. I'm a firm believer that there's someone for everyone; whenever you're ready.
(18-09-2013, 01:23 PM)flamesabers Wrote: [ -> ]Hello breast friends,
There's been a lot of discussion about telling one's spouse or significant other about wanting to pursue NBE. However, I haven't really come across anything about how NBE has an impact with members who are single but are looking or will be looking for a significant other.
For those who are single:
Do you think pursuing NBE has had a impact (positive or negative) with trying to get a relationship? Also, has NBE changed the type of person you're looking for and what you want from the relationship?
Here's my take on the questions.
I'm not actively searching for someone, so NBE hasn't had an impact yet. I realize my pursuit of NBE may very well be a turn-off for a number of potential girlfriends. However, I don't think this is a major loss for me considering I would only want to be with someone who isn't bothered by my androgynous gender identity and expression.
I don't think NBE has had much headway with changing the type of person I'm looking for. Before NBE I didn't want to have children, so the probable loss of fertility is irrelevant for me. As far as sexual relations goes, I always have been conflicted about having a raging sex drive obsessed with porn and masturbation. Now that spearmint and pm has significantly tapered down my sex drive, I think I would be most compatible with a asexual female.
Even if I didn't pursue NBE, looking for someone who is accepting of gender nonconformity has been important for me. Prior to NBE, the big issue would be finding someone who isn't bothered my crossdressing. Ultimately I think the type of relationship I'm looking for would be like a Boston Marriage.
From Urban Dictionary, a Boston Marriage is:
Quote:A relationship with a strong emotional bond between two people based on friendship. It transcends a typical friendship, but is not romantic.
Anyone has thoughts or experiences they would like to share?
(18-09-2013, 01:31 PM)julieTG Wrote: [ -> ]Flame
EXCELLENT question
also I think age has a lot to do with it, ie wives are more accepting as the older male realises something a little adrift,
But the younger generations now are far more accepting of all
Lesbian, bi, homosexual and trans and all mixtures inbetween, in fact quite a few seek out pan sexual people ,
Julie
(19-09-2013, 12:52 AM)doodlebug2055 Wrote: [ -> ]Hey Flame, I'm not positive but it sounds like you're thinking breasts and the mind we have is a drawback to finding a companion because it's fair to think it's a turn off for most women. While that MAY be true, I think having a "mind like ours" is a real asset when seeking a companion - that goes for most of us here by the way. When I compare myself to other guys out there, I can tell I'm much more emotional / relational / connected / loving etc with my wife. If a girl gives you any chance at all, and she's gotten to know a few guys before so she has a little maturity, she might pick up on your more feminine attributes and find them to be a rather refreshing alternative to the jocks, neanderthals and narcissists she could find ogling her anywhere. You might not be able to compete with them on some levels but in other ways you have them beat handily. I'm a firm believer that there's someone for everyone; whenever you're ready.
(19-09-2013, 01:12 AM)The Stranger Wrote: [ -> ] (18-09-2013, 01:23 PM)flamesabers Wrote: [ -> ]Hello breast friends,
The stranger' now i have wanted to persue nbe for a long time but ne ver had the courage to do anything but now ive got a great girl who supports me and will do anything for me. Im just not sure wat the best way to go about is. Ive heard bad stories about the cream and the pills and implants are not always the best option mainly cause there so exspensive. So if anyone has any ideas please share them with me
There's been a lot of discussion about telling one's spouse or significant other about wanting to pursue NBE. However, I haven't really come across anything about how NBE has an impact with members who are single but are looking or will be looking for a significant other.
For those who are single:
Do you think pursuing NBE has had a impact (positive or negative) with trying to get a relationship? Also, has NBE changed the type of person you're looking for and what you want from the relationship?
Here's my take on the questions.
I'm not actively searching for someone, so NBE hasn't had an impact yet. I realize my pursuit of NBE may very well be a turn-off for a number of potential girlfriends. However, I don't think this is a major loss for me considering I would only want to be with someone who isn't bothered by my androgynous gender identity and expression.
I don't think NBE has had much headway with changing the type of person I'm looking for. Before NBE I didn't want to have children, so the probable loss of fertility is irrelevant for me. As far as sexual relations goes, I always have been conflicted about having a raging sex drive obsessed with porn and masturbation. Now that spearmint and pm has significantly tapered down my sex drive, I think I would be most compatible with a asexual female.
Even if I didn't pursue NBE, looking for someone who is accepting of gender nonconformity has been important for me. Prior to NBE, the big issue would be finding someone who isn't bothered my crossdressing. Ultimately I think the type of relationship I'm looking for would be like a Boston Marriage.
From Urban Dictionary, a Boston Marriage is:
Quote:A relationship with a strong emotional bond between two people based on friendship. It transcends a typical friendship, but is not romantic.
Anyone has thoughts or experiences they would like to share?
(18-09-2013, 01:31 PM)julieTG Wrote: [ -> ]Flame
EXCELLENT question
also I think age has a lot to do with it, ie wives are more accepting as the older male realises something a little adrift,
But the younger generations now are far more accepting of all
Lesbian, bi, homosexual and trans and all mixtures inbetween, in fact quite a few seek out pan sexual people ,
Julie
(19-09-2013, 12:52 AM)doodlebug2055 Wrote: [ -> ]Hey Flame, I'm not positive but it sounds like you're thinking breasts and the mind we have is a drawback to finding a companion because it's fair to think it's a turn off for most women. While that MAY be true, I think having a "mind like ours" is a real asset when seeking a companion - that goes for most of us here by the way. When I compare myself to other guys out there, I can tell I'm much more emotional / relational / connected / loving etc with my wife. If a girl gives you any chance at all, and she's gotten to know a few guys before so she has a little maturity, she might pick up on your more feminine attributes and find them to be a rather refreshing alternative to the jocks, neanderthals and narcissists she could find ogling her anywhere. You might not be able to compete with them on some levels but in other ways you have them beat handily. I'm a firm believer that there's someone for everyone; whenever you're ready.
(19-09-2013, 12:52 AM)doodlebug2055 Wrote: [ -> ]Hey Flame, I'm not positive but it sounds like you're thinking breasts and the mind we have is a drawback to finding a companion because it's fair to think it's a turn off for most women. While that MAY be true, I think having a "mind like ours" is a real asset when seeking a companion - that goes for most of us here by the way. When I compare myself to other guys out there, I can tell I'm much more emotional / relational / connected / loving etc with my wife. If a girl gives you any chance at all, and she's gotten to know a few guys before so she has a little maturity, she might pick up on your more feminine attributes and find them to be a rather refreshing alternative to the jocks, neanderthals and narcissists she could find ogling her anywhere. You might not be able to compete with them on some levels but in other ways you have them beat handily. I'm a firm believer that there's someone for everyone; whenever you're ready.
It wasn't my intention to sound pessimistic. For the most part I agree with your assessment. I do have a nagging thought that if a woman is interested in being with someone who is more feminine, beyond the issue of hetrosexuality, why wouldn't she find another woman to be her companion?
In all honesty though, I think my personality more than my gender identity quirks or having breasts will be the biggest obstacle with me finding a female companion. I'm a private person and it is frequently difficult for me to get to know people and initiate friendships and other types of relationships. I'm so accustomed to being relatively alone it's a challenge to change my ways. I'm not trying to throw a pity party here, I'm just stating things as I see them.
I would like to share your belief there is someone for everyone. If that's the case, not only will she probably have to make the first move, she'll more than likely be the one chasing me instead of the other way around.
