24-02-2013, 04:31 PM
Hi again doodlebug!
Hmmm..... so, not everything then?
Please don't take the following as any form of negative criticism, because I do understand how difficult it all is.
I really do recommend being up front with her.
If there's one thing a spouse does not like it is being presented with a fait-accomplit.
Unless I miss my guess, she will take it badly finding out that you have been taking herbs and pumping to grow your breasts without consulting her first. After all, marriage is a partnership. How would you feel if she got her head shaved with an all-over body tattoo (or something equally ridiculous) without discussing it first?
This will affect her personally, so she does have a right to know.
If she understands your needs as you say she does, she may well give you the ok, in which case you can enjoy the fruits of your labours without guilt and secrecy.
If she says no, then you can breathe a sigh of relief at least, because she would be far unhappier if you grew and she realised it was in stealth mode.
Believe me, either way you will be better off!
This is the major piece of advice that I try to give to married men on this board. To act in stealth to feminise yourself is quite similar to being unfaithful with another woman because it is a form of betrayal: you are delivering a perceived message, true or not, that you do not love or trust her enough to grant permission, and also that a refusal is not acceptable to you which gives another message of not loving or caring enough to negotiate/persuade her of your needs.
I think you will find that all of the folk her who have used NBE and maintained a happy and successful marriage have been up front and gained permission in advance; myself, Patti, sfem and Pansy-Mae come to mind.
Good luck, whatever you decide,
B.
(23-02-2013, 11:58 PM)doodlebug2055 Wrote: Thanks, Byrony. I'm not Brittish, I'm native Minnesotan. I picked the alias "Doodlebug" many moons ago - thought it sounded neat.Ah! I guess you know that was the nickname for the flying bombs in the Blitz though!
Quote:My wife knows EVERYTHING about me ....She doesn't however, know about the "side effect" or the NB. .
Hmmm..... so, not everything then?
Please don't take the following as any form of negative criticism, because I do understand how difficult it all is.
I really do recommend being up front with her.
If there's one thing a spouse does not like it is being presented with a fait-accomplit.
Unless I miss my guess, she will take it badly finding out that you have been taking herbs and pumping to grow your breasts without consulting her first. After all, marriage is a partnership. How would you feel if she got her head shaved with an all-over body tattoo (or something equally ridiculous) without discussing it first?
This will affect her personally, so she does have a right to know.
If she understands your needs as you say she does, she may well give you the ok, in which case you can enjoy the fruits of your labours without guilt and secrecy.
If she says no, then you can breathe a sigh of relief at least, because she would be far unhappier if you grew and she realised it was in stealth mode.
Believe me, either way you will be better off!
This is the major piece of advice that I try to give to married men on this board. To act in stealth to feminise yourself is quite similar to being unfaithful with another woman because it is a form of betrayal: you are delivering a perceived message, true or not, that you do not love or trust her enough to grant permission, and also that a refusal is not acceptable to you which gives another message of not loving or caring enough to negotiate/persuade her of your needs.
I think you will find that all of the folk her who have used NBE and maintained a happy and successful marriage have been up front and gained permission in advance; myself, Patti, sfem and Pansy-Mae come to mind.
Good luck, whatever you decide,
B.