05-02-2013, 12:44 PM
Michelle - there are some things you need to consider.
First, medications can damage sperm. For instance if you are on Finasteride or Dutasteride, to block DHT, they can cause massive birth defects in male foetuses. It is not even safe for women of child bearing age to handle these drugs (even though they are coated) because they are absorbed through the skin. Dutasteride has a half-life in the body of 5 weeks, Finasteride is less.
Second, any estrogenic compound may reduce overall sperm levels. You may need to give your system time to recover from the effects of PM. If you go on HRT then you can forget fathering kids as permanent sterility is very likely - in fact you should expect to become sterile as part of the process. Many people seem to think that they will have 6 months of a year before sterility hits on HRT, but I know of at least one person who was sterile after a few weeks HRT.
Finally, your wife may "dig" the idea of being a lesbian but you both need to appreciate what full HRT will do to your libido. Basically, it will vanish. She will have to learn to deal with the fact that you are unlikely to initiate sex because it will never cross your mind so she better be happy with becoming the leading partner as far as that goes.
If children are important to you both then I suspect you will have to stop all NBE or HRT, give your system 3 to 6 months to clear everything out and then get your sperm checked. If at that point it all looks ok then go for it, but you will have no way of knowing if lasting damage has been done until the child starts to develop.
I am sorry to be so negative about this, but you are facing some difficult choices and there are no easy answers.
First, medications can damage sperm. For instance if you are on Finasteride or Dutasteride, to block DHT, they can cause massive birth defects in male foetuses. It is not even safe for women of child bearing age to handle these drugs (even though they are coated) because they are absorbed through the skin. Dutasteride has a half-life in the body of 5 weeks, Finasteride is less.
Second, any estrogenic compound may reduce overall sperm levels. You may need to give your system time to recover from the effects of PM. If you go on HRT then you can forget fathering kids as permanent sterility is very likely - in fact you should expect to become sterile as part of the process. Many people seem to think that they will have 6 months of a year before sterility hits on HRT, but I know of at least one person who was sterile after a few weeks HRT.
Finally, your wife may "dig" the idea of being a lesbian but you both need to appreciate what full HRT will do to your libido. Basically, it will vanish. She will have to learn to deal with the fact that you are unlikely to initiate sex because it will never cross your mind so she better be happy with becoming the leading partner as far as that goes.
If children are important to you both then I suspect you will have to stop all NBE or HRT, give your system 3 to 6 months to clear everything out and then get your sperm checked. If at that point it all looks ok then go for it, but you will have no way of knowing if lasting damage has been done until the child starts to develop.
I am sorry to be so negative about this, but you are facing some difficult choices and there are no easy answers.