[Teddy]

 .....  she questioned my womanhood in such arrogant and belittling way. It was blatant transphobia and some what she said seemed like internalised misogyny too.  ....

DiDi, I am very sorry to read what you have experienced. Maybe I'm not at all qualified to say much regarding your "born-with-vulva" (ex) friends. However, that person in question is behaving disgusting way and definitely isn't a friend. Form me and so many others you are a really beautiful lady. No reservations in that statement.

I took that little quotation from your writing because it describes her more than enough. She is likely very insecure regarding her own personality and womanhood, and she has no manners, either. At least her mask was falling, using words Finland's previous president said in another context.

Believe me, I have built in my mind a quite clear picture of you as a person and a personality based on your writing here and our little chat in Discord: You are a combination of very sensitive, but at the same time also in your core a strong woman. This kind of B.S. you have had and have to experience also in future will for sure hurt, but you will make through it and get new and better friends. True friends which are not insulting you but supporting you. Already now I feel in my heart that you are my newfound little sister in Finland, whom I admire.

Hugs, a lot of hugs
Teddy