27-09-2023, 11:09 AM
I kind of agree with prostatenipple, external validation can be good of course but i often feel like you have an excessive need for it. I am worried because it is not really healthy mindset. But i sometimes do the same, so i don't want to be too much of an hypocrite.
I think when the healthcare system wants you on therapy is because they want to rule out or solve other issues before fully going with them. As you said: "transition brings out previous mental health problems in a whole new light and dealing with this is painful" , so yeah there are some old things it is better to solve as these will keep haunting you even after your transition is "finished". I am afraid even after transition, you won't be happy because you are still carrying these mental weights.
As you suggested i looked up Body Dysmorphia Disorder and looks like there are ways to help with it, either therapy with a doctor and/or antidepressants. Expecting random people to fill up your inbox with compliments seems unrealistic and not very helpful.
Lara... your quote from May is quite bad... i understand you were angry and trying to vent, but it doesn't change the fact it was very sexist and you publicly posted it online. Imagine if you said "women disgust me, they are only good for sex".
Even on the first post when you said:
Imagine any trans person reading that... coming from a trans woman, seems like gatekeeping and transphobia a little.
I don't judge anyone for having their opinion or hating someone or something else, however remember here you have many more supporters than you think... and calling some of them pigs or disgusting is not very grateful or respectful. Your anger inside can be disruptive towards yourself and your close ones, i suggest working on that if you get on therapy.
I think when the healthcare system wants you on therapy is because they want to rule out or solve other issues before fully going with them. As you said: "transition brings out previous mental health problems in a whole new light and dealing with this is painful" , so yeah there are some old things it is better to solve as these will keep haunting you even after your transition is "finished". I am afraid even after transition, you won't be happy because you are still carrying these mental weights.
As you suggested i looked up Body Dysmorphia Disorder and looks like there are ways to help with it, either therapy with a doctor and/or antidepressants. Expecting random people to fill up your inbox with compliments seems unrealistic and not very helpful.
Lara... your quote from May is quite bad... i understand you were angry and trying to vent, but it doesn't change the fact it was very sexist and you publicly posted it online. Imagine if you said "women disgust me, they are only good for sex".
Even on the first post when you said:
Quote:"But the kind of magical awesome transition that was sold to me was a lie. Its all bullshit to not scare off eggs from starting out."
Imagine any trans person reading that... coming from a trans woman, seems like gatekeeping and transphobia a little.
I don't judge anyone for having their opinion or hating someone or something else, however remember here you have many more supporters than you think... and calling some of them pigs or disgusting is not very grateful or respectful. Your anger inside can be disruptive towards yourself and your close ones, i suggest working on that if you get on therapy.