21-03-2014, 10:18 PM
The simple truth is there is not a one size fits all answer. Every person is different, as is every relationship, at least IMO.
If a relationship already has cracks or problems, then this may damage it further, sometimes in a final way. Some women, for a variety of reasons, simply cannot handle the idea at all. But some relationships do well and some even improve. If there is real, heartfelt love on both sides, unsullied by personal insecurities on either side, then the odds of survival are good.
Pure honesty, coupled with a sensitivity to her needs, I would think, would be the best policy. Don't try to move too quickly. Be patient. Let her bring it up. Meantime, be the guy she fell in love with. Do the same stuff that got her to love you in the beginning. I don't mean be clingy, but rather just be from her point of view a value added husband.
Of course, keep in mind that my own situation in this regard is currently insecure to say the least...so take my advice for what it is worth...but, it is what I am trying.
Hugs
If a relationship already has cracks or problems, then this may damage it further, sometimes in a final way. Some women, for a variety of reasons, simply cannot handle the idea at all. But some relationships do well and some even improve. If there is real, heartfelt love on both sides, unsullied by personal insecurities on either side, then the odds of survival are good.
Pure honesty, coupled with a sensitivity to her needs, I would think, would be the best policy. Don't try to move too quickly. Be patient. Let her bring it up. Meantime, be the guy she fell in love with. Do the same stuff that got her to love you in the beginning. I don't mean be clingy, but rather just be from her point of view a value added husband.
Of course, keep in mind that my own situation in this regard is currently insecure to say the least...so take my advice for what it is worth...but, it is what I am trying.
Hugs