[Katie]

I think a lot of the pressure comes from very early days when there was only One pathway on offer and that was IF the gatekeepers decided you were worthy and passable enough and signed all sorts of waivers saying you would denounce your old life and move away and swear to never tell anyone for the rest of your life, and Then you may get your surgery and HRT.

Today in slightly more enlightened times, it being realised that there are many pathways because there are many levels of need, and it`s really down to the individual to find their own Transquilibrium and then keep doing what works, some will need the full OP and social and legal change, some poor souls need more and the technology simply isn`t available today (yet), other`s are happy to dress occasionally.

you just have to find what works for You and try and ignore the hang-overs and pressures of yester-years thinking that`s still alive and well today!