Hi Patti,
I can only help with what I know. I linked the study on mortality among post ops on this forum in a thread called "Grow and go?" Read it, and judge for yourself. And count your blessings: you will not end up as a single, childless old man.
Now the conclusion of that article is that the only possible hormonal cause is the practice among Dutch post ops to continue HRT after surgery with estrogen medication they buy on the web. Personally, I don't trust the high cypro doses either. That's why I believe your situation is delicate. Come clean to your doc, and pretty please, don't sue me for explaining the dilemma
Your idea about the close shave is the only one I have discovered to work for myself. TVs are generally level headed people, and their facial skin doesn't become flabby, because they have no skin damage from laser or electrolysis, and the hairs provide some support. Ultimately, if you decrease cypro, you will have to learn to embrace and love some aspects of your masculinity. That is the tough part for me.
Read up on the alternatives for cypro: spironolactone, finasteride, dutasteride. SP is a 5α-reductase type 2 inhibitor, which works wonders in case of prostate problems. I don't know how that helps feminization. Hops is a 5α-reductase type 1 inhibitor, which helps in case of acne. Young TVs in Belgium love it, and I still use it. People who want to sell dutasteride have sponsored research to prove that for hair loss, both types are important. For facial and body hair, I don't know, but you'll find it if you want to know. Barley grass suppresses facial hair.
The basis of my program is the lowest dose of a 5α-reductase inhibitor that limits my masculinity to a level I can handle emotionally, and still feel like myself. Then I add enough estrogens for growth, and add the minimum amount of a progestin to prevent symptoms of estrogen dominance: headaches, foggy thinking. On cypro, you could experience progesterone dominance: clear thinking, easily irritated. The bonus is prolactin: you can have quite a bit of it to cause swelling, before it shuts down libido. But PM suppresses prolactin. That's why PM stoppers experience swelling after a couple of days of PM wash out. Finally, fans of cypro point out that they don't get fat or get the bloated look. I control insulin and cortisol for weight, and I never look bloated, don't know why.
I hope this answers some of the questions. Search my program thread for "symptoms of progesterone toxicity" if you need a check list. The lists are also there for estrogen dominance, androgen dominance, and excesses or deficiencies of all the NBE hormones. I haven't gotten around to splitting up my list of anti-androgens in type 1 and type 2 yet.
I keep all these data in my program thread, but please don't read it as a guide for feminization. I ended up with a look that is too shemale for e.g. the work place, and the accusation that I'm chasing a porn fantasy is never far away. I can only express limited masculinity without feeling uncomfortable, and that is awkward in a situation that demands I make my mark. Keeping the tragedy out of my life is already a tough job. You're doing fine