Well said Lara. 

In my own way I'm starting to see what you mean about tolerance and not acceptance. Granted not as much as you notice it since I'm still a baby in terms of transition. But little things that are said in conversation. Things that refer to being a male and that's what is expected of me, like Im forced into it no matter how it what I feel. 

Again nearly as bad and horrible as to the things you face and deal with on a normal basis. But I'm starting to understand more and more a little each day where you're coming from. And what hurts the most is that these comments and stuff and being said by my wife (which I know she doesn't mean anything by or she doesn't even realize she's saying them) but it hurts and makes me feel I can never open up to her and have those thoughts conversations I need to with her, as much as I want to be able to share this side of myself with her, I feel like I can't since how she speaks somewhat shows her stance on how she feels about me being trans.

As you go further, you will become more and more disillusioned about a lot of things. Rampant misogyny in society is one of those things. Another is how prevalent transphobia is still to this day and its been getting worse lately. I'm sure you've had some perspective all your life, but starting to live everything from womans point of view is a rude awakening. It will also be a growing experience. Unfortunate side effect is to become often cynical or painfully realistic about how people (especially most men) are like.

This ties in with the prevalence of porn (brain rot) and all this fetish stuff. Its all over the place already, social media has been totally ruined by ads and porn for quite some time now. I definitely don't wish to see that same on BN. Thankfully its mostly really cool here. One of the least problematic online communities I've found and THE place for breast growing science. I hope it stays like that. I don't want to leave for same reasons I've left nearly all other online spaces already.

Thank you, DiDi.

I just think that the difference of what is allowed on this forum and what's not, should be in the content itself and not on the intentions. If the content is intentionally pornographic (pictures of private parts, and erotic stories for example), or if it degrades or humiliates people (calling others sissies, or other derogatory terms) it should be deleted and the poster should be warned or kicked out. If one is simply posting about the reasons why they decided to grow boobs then it's a different story. Growing boobs CAN be a fetish (it is for me) and it may be for sexual gratification. While it probably is a step towards the correct body image of a transgender girl, it can still be classified as body modification for males staying males. I won't go about telling transgender girls that it's a fetish for them, because I know how annoying it is when someone calls me an egg just for being on this forum.

I think we should put a stop to total nudity that nothing has to do with breast growth. I am not squeamish and I've seen plenty of porn images, but there is a difference between posting a picture in a bikini bottom to show hips feminization (which is borderline acceptable when talking about "side effects" of methods to grow breasts), and posting full nudes posing like a pin-up.

The thing about porn is debatable. I know porn content creators (IRL) who are happy about what they do (both TG and GG). The industry may be degrading most times, but I don't think that the aim of this forum should be to fight a crusade against porn. Many people here have first encountered the idea of gender fluidity through porn. I, for one, started crossdressing when Internet was a thing for universities running an 8088 mainframe, but it was only through porn that I first saw someone with breasts and male parts. It did indeed condition what I want, my fetishes, but it was a hugely freeing event. 
As the LGBT movement wrote on posters at the London Pride "Some girls have a dick, get over it". There are very many trans women out there who are perfectly happy with having both parts. If we accept that gender is a spectrum, then wanting a girl with extra parts is as legit as wanting a redhead, a short girl, or a blonde one. I had a fetish for asian girls and I married one. I can't see the difference with the people hoping to find a girlfriend with a dick. And yes, most probably they qill have built that preference using porn, since it's not something usually shown in biology classes in secondary school.

So, again. Let's limit the content we post to what is not directly offensive or bottom nudity. We can always find something that offends someone in everything that we write. Let's keep in mind that "It's not always about us", let's behave like adults and grow a thicker skin. We can explain to newcomers how to communicate and what to post around here. If they get warned twice then they can be kicked out. We all learned something at some point, haven't we?

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@daphne

That's too funny.

lmao. First ever BN themed meme? xD lol I'm saving that for later.

I agree its not a fetish its a lifestyle, for me. But its not realistic to say all people who visit here feel the same. For me I became large chested because I felt my sexual preferances and gender were hidden by me. I came out but not to everyone. What I did was document my development in photos videos and words. I looked at others here and elsewhere to gain knowledge how to do it. Just like the science of Sexual Preference and Gender Preferance (Rainbow and Spectrum) there is a science of Statistics of visitors that visit here. We have the curious the members the sexually active and the exploiters. In my 7 years here I met all of these visitors and I learned how to fit how to be me how to be positive even when meeting homophobic folks and people who wanted to make money off of me.

lol @ Daphne

I really don't want instructions from someone about how to masturbate. This adds nothing of value to the healthy content of this website.

I was asked how to deal with this issue here. I gave advice to keep picture posts in personal program threads and in the adult forum when appropriate. Pics where they belong and its almost always about breast growth and or other body changes. Or transition stuff like what I and few others do.

Basically keeping the forum on topic. This issue seems to repeat every few years, its not the first time and wont be the last. I wonder how many think that I'm some tight ass prude or something. Couldn't be more wrong. I just want this forum to stay as nice as it is or it'll alienate me and lot of others.