[Sofia Bunny]

So lately work has me under a lot of stress, so much going on, and so much to do. Everybody wants or needs something from me, and of course they all need it right away. So yeah, stress is a bit through the roof at the moment and driving me a bit crazy.

I've also noticed this past week I have been extremely emotional, up and down, up and down, and just not very good over all. I've cried now twice at work, luckily it was towards the end of the day so nobody would have noticed.

Not sure why I am feeling so damn emotional. I had been doing fine, I was stable, except for on breaks, and now this? The only thing I can think of is the high level of stress I am currently under.

So the icing on the cake came today. I found out that I will no longer be part of a department that I've helped shape and mold over the past decade+. While it comes as a mixed blessing, it will be sad because I will no longer see the people I've pretty much hung out with for so so so long now. They are as close to physical friends as I have. The new department that I am being moved to will allow me to work from home. So I will no longer have to come to the office. While that is nice, it also means my social interactions will now be none. I feel like I am losing what little physical friends I have. Even if I were to work from the office, I would be relocated to a different building with non I.T. people that do not share the quirky personalities found in I.T. personnel. Plus I would be the ONLY person coming into the office from the new department I am being relocated to, so it makes no sense for me to come in.

So my life is slowly evolving to a completely non physical world. My colleagues will all be remote, I will not see them, just hear them. I think that really hit me earlier, and wouldn't you know it... out came the water works again! Of course as I am writing this I find myself crying again.

Oh what the hell is wrong with me? Well, I am mentally and physically exhausted. Sorry, I just needed to somewhat vent a bit and get stuff off my chest and hopefully regain a bit of my sanity.

[flamesabers]

Sofia,

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. As you said, you're under a lot of stress, you're losing contact with your physical friends and you have a difficult decision to make. It's normal to be on edge when you feel overwhelmed and frustrated. We're here for you, no matter if you're going through bad times or good times.

[jannet.duff]

Hang on in there in. Sudden changes can effect us all, as well as being over stressed, the thought of a change you were not expecting can be overly emotional. Try and look on the bright side, Sofia gets more dress up time.

[Sofia Bunny]

Sofia,

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. As you said, you're under a lot of stress, you're losing contact with your physical friends and you have a difficult decision to make. It's normal to be on edge when you feel overwhelmed and frustrated. We're here for you, no matter if you're going through bad times or good times.

There isn't a decision on my part. The change is going to happen, it is just a matter of when it will go into effect. I have a feeling it will be real soon.

Thanks for the support!

[Sofia Bunny]

Hang on in there in. Sudden changes can effect us all, as well as being over stressed, the thought of a change you were not expecting can be overly emotional. Try and look on the bright side, Sofia gets more dress up time.

Thank you Jannet for the lovely reminder and support. I was so focused on the potential negative side of things, completely forgetting that I have the potential to wear a dress while working now. Hmm interesting times are looming ahead.

[tanysquirrel]

*hugs* hang in there!

look for the silver lining to the cloud...

[Happyme]

Hi Sophia,
So much to say, so lets get at it!
My company was having a slow down about 5 years ago, and many of the senior guys were going part time or retiring, So I offered to take a 32 hour week and work from home since all my work is done via VPN research etc, and my files are uploaded to the company server, So it made sense.
This meant I didnt have to drive 1.5 hour each way to work and back.
The big plus was that I was Bobbi 24/7. woke up did make up and had lots of fun picking out my dress or top and skirt for the day. WOOO HOOOO.
It was so much fun to be attending teleconferences all dressed up. Sometimes if it was boring I would use the time to epilate. hee hee.
After 2 years they moved the other guy I worked with and me to another division. Not a problem since we came with our own charge number and regular work.
Well the contract had some funding problems and we had to take vacation while the issue was resolved.
Our new division's people didnt know what we could do so they were not about to sign us up to help with their projects, hence vacation for a month.
The whole point of this long story is to force office time, face time. Get to know your new team mates and stay in their face and game.
Out of sight and out of mind are the telecommuters worst nightmare.
I know its tough leaving your work buds and you should make sure to keep in touch with them too.
Your life is about to get a whole lot better, but stay diligent and CYA
(cover your A$$)
Bobbi

[cutiesweets]

I am sorry to hear you are feeling stressed.

Hopefully you can still keep in touch with the friends you made at work.

There is a bright side to working at home too. You can work in your jammies, hehe or work in pretty dresses.

if you are feeling hungry, you do not need to wait until a break to eat. You can eat when you want. You will save a lot of time and gas by not having to drive back and forth to work everyday.

Is it possible that you can still hangout with the people you met at work? Maybe you can grab lunch with them from time to time, or something similar.

Hugs. Hang in there. xx

[polymorphis]

Sofia,

it is quite normal you feel emotional while overworked. And if you add some more stress from unexpected change... no wonder you feel how you feel. Emotions you feel are quite normal and needed - they protect us and give us our drive.

From my experience with many people, tendency to unexpected crying is often sign of anxiety and not sadness. I think you just feel anxious - about your work load and about the change in work. Just remember - anxiety is emotion that developed as a mechanism to prepare us for the change.

Yes, your situation is unpleasant and unexpected. But as other already commented, there are a lot of possible positives! You will have opportunity to work from home - so you will be more of a master of your time. (And ... yes, you can dress more ) You are afraid to loose your social connections - I understand that. It means you should acknowledge this danger and work to avoid it: Keep in touch with your old buddies. I also think you should try to make contacts with people in the new department. They are not IT guys, but people from other specialities have their own quirks. Moreover, I suppose most of your IT colleagues are guys. If it is so, by meeting people from other department you will maybe have opportunity to meet more females to socialise with, to observe and to learn from. My experience is that one can learn a lot about one's one feminine self by observing other women.

Just hold on... Keep in touch and keep us posted. I am personally interested how your situation is going to develop.

*HUGS*

Poly

[Sofia Bunny]

*hugs* hang in there!

look for the silver lining to the cloud...

Silver lining, yes, that's what I am looking at now. I am trying to avoid thinking about the negative and focus on the positive. Thank you Tanya! *HUGS*