[AmandaBust]

Coming out to your partner about your (desire for) crossdressing is risky if you have no idea how she will react. Like society in general, you can expect your wife to have a negative attitude about crossdressing at first.

If cross dressing is really that important to you, it may be worth the risk if you think your marriage is strong enough to handle that negative first reaction.

I toyed with wearing bra and panties in my younger days, but decided it wasn't worth risking my marriage over it. Furthermore, I had my own problems with the practice. That is, I was suppressing my feminine side very strongly back then.

If you decide to risk it, I think it's a good idea to sit down and have a talk with your partner about your cross gender personality (or special fetish if that be the case). I wouldn't jump right into the question of wearing lingerie. I think a spouse would be less likely to react badly to your revealing that there's another side to you that has always been there, but you've kept it hidden from everyone. It's a softer, more sensitive side of you that is crying out for more freedom from your normal, tough masculine persona.

You might also consider writing a letter to her about your desires. You don't have to give her the letter, though. Writing it helps you prepare for the sit-down talk that will eventually take place. Don't try to wing it.

Don't expect too much too soon. It will take time for your spouse to adjust and realized that you are still the man she married, and is in no danger of losing you.

Good luck

Clara

Agreed, Clara makes some fine points above! I especially like the idea of writhing a letter - it would help put things in order and reinforce the most important points in one's mind.

This site does indeed have a wealth of helpful information for a broad spectrum of the transgendered/CD community.

Speaking from experience, being part of this community with my fellow sisters, has made issues such as this easier to understand and discuss in an educated manor.

-A