[Missed Miss]

an inability to enjoy normal sexual intercourse with the woman we love and are physically attracted to.

In my case it's because I can't FIND one!!!!

In my case, I could only be aroused by imagining myself as a woman during a sexual encounter, or through a visual stimulus of a certain kind. Whether it was real life or fantasy, it always involved a woman with physical attributes that I admired -- no, ENVIED! Somehow, I would imagine myself being the woman I was having sex with, or the woman in the photo or movie. It didn't even have to be a pornographic image. Not surprisingly, I steered clear of most man-on-woman sex act depictions. Most of my porn collection was of solo girls. I was not particularly interested in porn that had the woman in situations that I, myself, would not want to be. Some of those erotic depictions had the woman in a submissive role, others in a dominant role. I've read that wanting to take the submissive role in sexual acts is common among the MTF transgendered.

I only did it because it proved to me that she really wanted to fuck me. If I'm on top, which I was more often than not, but NOT because I forced it on her, that NEVER EVER happened and never ever will, it's KINDA like saying, "Spread yer damn legs, bitch, I'm gonna FUCK you whether you like it or not!!" I want HER to be okay with it, not a case where it's me telling her I want it. However, when WITH a woman, I'm NEVER the "woman"!! I'm only the woman if I take matters into my own hand.

To stimulate your thinking here are some questions:

Were you, or are you now, dependent on porn and masturbation to achieve orgasm?

I didn't exactly NEED it, I just liked it and it helped to imagine situations better. In most cases, I was the woman in the mag/movie. seeing a naked woman helped me to imagine what it'd be like to be her, to have the body she has. Seeing her get fucked helps me to feel what she might be feeling vicariously.

Feel free to voice any other thoughts this post may have triggered on the subject.

Sometimes, when there's peanut butter and a German Shepherd handy....no, I won't go there! ;-)