25-01-2014, 09:59 PM
I think there is a world of difference between sex and making love. I have always been an absolute disaster at 'first times' and I now think it because I am spending all my time gauging responses and trying to please rather than just giving in to my own immediate desires.
As I get older and performance becomes less of a certainty anyway, I now realise that for the most part it doesn't actually matter so very much - there are many ways to skin a cat and it is the intimacy that counts, and specific penetration is not the be all and end all.
Of course - I might be deluding myself and this might all be part of the reason I frequent this site.
It is tricky when one suddenly realises that there are no certainties anymore!!!!!!
As I get older and performance becomes less of a certainty anyway, I now realise that for the most part it doesn't actually matter so very much - there are many ways to skin a cat and it is the intimacy that counts, and specific penetration is not the be all and end all.
Of course - I might be deluding myself and this might all be part of the reason I frequent this site.
It is tricky when one suddenly realises that there are no certainties anymore!!!!!!