[GoneGirl]

I was going to post this in the 'Sexual Orientation' thread in response to a post by Samantha, but decided to put it here as maybe the more appropriate place.

Lol, Clara! Touche! Ouch!
Was that how you felt? Honestly, if so, I am sorry. That was not my intention. I guess sometimes I may seem more strident than I intend.
Though, actually, I do see a difference myself.
I know you find value in labels, and terminology of this sort, and that is fine.

You're a sweetheart, Samantha. I'm becoming attracted to you. Well, your breasts away.

Yes, I guess I do find value in categorization, even though I'm not a botanist, zoologist, or sexologist.

My understanding of the categories of sexual orientation are:

Heterosexual - capable of sexual arousal by the opposite sex
Homosexual - capable of sexual arousal by the same sex
Bi-sexual - capable of sexual arousal by either sex
Asexual - incapable of sexual arousal
Anallerotic - incapable of sexual arousal by either sex but capable of sexual arousal in other ways
Autogynephilic - sexually aroused by fantasizing about oneself as a woman
Autoandrophilic - sexually aroused by fantasizing about oneself as a man


For most of my life I figured I was anallerotic (No, I don't mean "anal erotic"). I was not sexually aroused by either sex (although I was attracted to women from an aesthetics standpoint). To maintain a state of arousal I needed porn + masturbation.

To fulfill my duties as a husband, I discovered that if I imagined myself being a woman during sexual intercourse, I could maintain a state of arousal. The psychiatric word for that (Google Dr. Ray Blanchard) is 'autogynephilia' or AGP.

Of course, Blanchard didn't call it a sexual orientation. He said that any autogynephiliac who isn't homosexual is a fetishist. He didn't accept the notion that a gender dysphoric man could be heterosexual. Obviously, that's wrong.

It's sad to think that for nearly all my life, until recently, I never found real sexual satisfaction in the arms of my wife as her husband, the man. Today, I do, but not as a man, but as a woman. What's ironic about it is that today, in a state of arousal brought about through "lesbian sex" with my wife, I'll often achieve a lasting erection as a "bi-product". LOL! But, if I then penetrate her vagina, I have to imagine that I'm the submissive, or I'll have a devil of a time reaching orgasm. Go figure.

Some of you must have the same sexuality, no?

CK