18-01-2014, 02:39 PM
I can see how revealing one's transgender desires to a spouse can illicit a strong negative response.
How would you react if your wife announced that all her life she wished to be man. She wants to take androgens, grow body hair, and have top surgery?
I know it would be tough for me to accept. First, I'd wonder how I could be married to a person for so long and not know them better. That would probably be accompanied by a mixture of fear and anger. Anger that she's doing this now, and fear that even if the marriage survives, my life will be turned upside down.
I would probably insist that such notions stop. That might be all it takes to end it. But if she's not willing to give it up, what then?
Somehow, I think the final answer lies in the strength of love between two people. Weak bonds will break; strong ones will be stretched, maybe to the breaking point, but hold in the end.
If it's someone you've recently started dating, I suppose it would be altogether different. There's much less invested in the relationship, so it's easier to break fledgling bonds. That, however, might make it even more difficult to be honest about one's trans nature at the start. It's often very for people like us to find a love mate.
CK
How would you react if your wife announced that all her life she wished to be man. She wants to take androgens, grow body hair, and have top surgery?
I know it would be tough for me to accept. First, I'd wonder how I could be married to a person for so long and not know them better. That would probably be accompanied by a mixture of fear and anger. Anger that she's doing this now, and fear that even if the marriage survives, my life will be turned upside down.
I would probably insist that such notions stop. That might be all it takes to end it. But if she's not willing to give it up, what then?
Somehow, I think the final answer lies in the strength of love between two people. Weak bonds will break; strong ones will be stretched, maybe to the breaking point, but hold in the end.
If it's someone you've recently started dating, I suppose it would be altogether different. There's much less invested in the relationship, so it's easier to break fledgling bonds. That, however, might make it even more difficult to be honest about one's trans nature at the start. It's often very for people like us to find a love mate.
CK