[GoneGirl]

What sex life? I should have been a nun...

Oh, Karren, I feel bad for you.

So my answer is better if a lot different. Provided that I am not deceiving myself, my wife thinks that things are now a lot better than they have been, at least for most of the present century! Our friendship is as strong as ever after more than fifty years, and our love is I believe deeper than it has ever been but with less stress.

We have that in common, Annabel, and it's the best unexpected side effect of PM for us. Yes, I'm trying to hold on to some male function, but if I can't, it's not really that important. Erections are still fun, but orgasm/ejaculation is optional now.

I'm amazed any of us are able to maintain longterm relationships with the very obvious limitations that said gymnastics place on intercourse.

How do the women not sense something's up? My lovers always did really quickly. Oh well, I guess maybe I just suck at hiding it.

I was always in denial of my fem self, and tried to do everything a man is expected to do. I did okay except when it came to sex. I could perform as a normal man, but with no real passion, no abandon. Copulatory sex was another form of masturbation for me, heavily dependent on mental imagery and fantasy, and often anxiety ridden. Not every love making attempt was successful, and that left me frustrated, humiliated, and remorseful. I'm sure my wife could sense something was wrong (she was not inexperienced sexually), and had misgivings over my sexual shortcomings. It was our mutual love for each other that kept us together. I don't believe there was any straying, either.

CK