[Missed Miss]

Many (like yourself) would wish others would just accept things as they are, but you're right, there has to be some explanation that they (loved ones), themselves can identify with, or else its like asking a vegan to eat a steak. "Why??"

You have to think like the outsider on it. "Why would there be a need for that?" "why now after all these years?" I think the longer they see you as a certain way, the harder it is too accept you, or "the new you" that was always inside.

All they know is that you carry a strong desire to embody certain characteristics which by nature is generally not ideal, but does happen . Such a high chance they will never understand it and just render you confused, "off," or with perverse or fetish-freakish tendencies.

Being transgendered is not a perversion, nor is it a fetish!! In almost every case, a transgendered person has been dealing with this issue their entire life!! So many have this idea that they can fix themselves by getting married and having kids, but that rarely ever works.
Getting a tattoo or a piercing is more a fetish, and, in some cases, even a perversion, because it's not something some feels they HAVE to have from day 1 just to make themselves feel more comfortable in their own body! It's a decision someone makes for themselves much later in life.