[TibetanPrincess]

How to tell the kids?
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We've heard some of the conversations on telling their spouses about doing NBE,or to transition.But how would you try to explain this to your kids,adult or otherwise?


This could be one of the worst things to try and explain!

Many (like yourself) would wish others would just accept things as they are, but you're right, there has to be some explanation that they (loved ones), themselves can identify with, or else its like asking a vegan to eat a steak. "Why??"

You have to think like the outsider on it. "Why would there be a need for that?" "why now after all these years?" I think the longer they see you as a certain way, the harder it is too accept you, or "the new you" that was always inside.
Children and even other fam members may think you or that person as selfish, depending how young they are . Especially if it breaks/ alters or destroys the family (for some cases).

All they know is that you carry a strong desire to embody certain characteristics which by nature is generally not ideal, but does happen from imbalances. Such a high chance they will never understand it and just render you confused, "off," or with perverse or fetish-freakish tendencies etc.

You have to just accept that. As long as they still love you at the end of the day, that's all that should matter. I guess it will just remain to question for each individual, "is it worth it?" And most won't know until they tell their kids.

Isabella would have been perfect to ask this very question. Sadly she hasn't been here in so long.