24-08-2013, 10:14 PM
(This post was last modified: 24-08-2013, 10:21 PM by TibetanPrincess.)
Have you known since you were a tot you were transgendered? Or did this hit you later on? Is this just mere gender bending your identity? Because Id imagine they'd ask this.
In all honesty, better now than never to just be who YOU really are around them. Its your fault in a way. You've set them up all these years to think of you in a way that is not truly you. You just need to suck it up now and BECOME. Unfortunately, there is no gentle way of going about because it is DRASTIC. Its not familiar to them. You can't expect to rig the situation to have a "soft blow" so to speak.
At the end of the day, they know you love them. So its not like your trying to shove shit pie in their faces telling them to go to hell, you are just opening up to them for their support and acception.
Its like trying to find a way to tell them you've died in a sense and are no longer coming back, I would imagine, this never really settles well with anyone, especially parents unless they truly can understand and have seen the "signs" when you were growing up or through out the years they have known you.
And if this is this case, you can't blame them for questioning "why now?, he was never that way before," "what changed?"
And you never know, it might just be harder for you then it is going to be for them.
Good luck and pussy up. Live your life freely now
In all honesty, better now than never to just be who YOU really are around them. Its your fault in a way. You've set them up all these years to think of you in a way that is not truly you. You just need to suck it up now and BECOME. Unfortunately, there is no gentle way of going about because it is DRASTIC. Its not familiar to them. You can't expect to rig the situation to have a "soft blow" so to speak.
At the end of the day, they know you love them. So its not like your trying to shove shit pie in their faces telling them to go to hell, you are just opening up to them for their support and acception.
Its like trying to find a way to tell them you've died in a sense and are no longer coming back, I would imagine, this never really settles well with anyone, especially parents unless they truly can understand and have seen the "signs" when you were growing up or through out the years they have known you.
And if this is this case, you can't blame them for questioning "why now?, he was never that way before," "what changed?"
And you never know, it might just be harder for you then it is going to be for them.
Good luck and pussy up. Live your life freely now
(24-08-2013, 03:12 AM)doodlebug2055 Wrote: Thanks for the reply Miss Missed but that's not really what I was hoping for. They're my family, I can't tell them to, "go to hell" or anything else with attitude like that. Furthermore, I don't want to take that easy way out. For my sake and especially for theirs, I'd like them to see me, really not very differently than I have ever been although the tendency would be to REPLACE who I was with what they now know about me. Rather, I'd like to win some support among good people who haven't HAD to understand my issue before and therefore might make it hard on those who aren't as close to them as I happen to be (plain and simple prejudice towards transgenders). I could give them the finger and broaden the separation between me and them or I can try to help them understand me so they are sympathetic and perhaps kinder to you some day if your path crosses theirs. Who better to do that for my family and friends than me? Should I leave it up to PBS or their other biased acquaintances? No, I think it needs to be me and I'm hoping for some collective thought on how to do that lovingly.