[AbiDrew85]

People who have a firm belief in the binary nature of gender seem to have a very hard time accepting the view of those who do not. I have seen this many times from many people, both trans and non-trans. On this board and others.
My personal theory is that it has nothing to do with what they think of what is being called in-betweeners here, and everything to do with what they think of themselves. The theory I favour is that until you fully embrace your own uniqueness (not just make peace with what you think of as your defects, or display it/them to others hoping for their approval), you will struggle to accept the differences in others. I also currently favour the notion that this particular concept is not specific to gender/sex/body issues, but to everything we experience in life.
We now return you to your regularly scheduled program.

I'm not sure I get where you're going with this?

I have little trouble understanding gender as a spectrum. Sex also is a spectrum. And attraction.

My problem is with anyone insisting I PERSONALLY should be in-between. Because I'm not. I could care less if they are or are like me or are perfectly at home in a hetero-normative definition in which their sex is male, their gender is male, and their attraction is to females. (or female, female, male)

I don't truly understand how the "in-betweenie" categories work. (Usually referred to as genderqueer, and I've been having a very rough time avoiding using the terminology since apparently you guys here don't like it.)

But I have no trouble recognizing that they exist and understanding gender on a whole in a way that doesn't exclude you. Though some of you really get on my nerves. Especially "MissC".

When speaking with one of you I always try to respect who YOU are. Which is not like me. If I'm speaking to someone like me, then I'll respect them for who THEY are.

My problem wasn't with genderqueer in general, but with MissC trying to shoe-horn me into it.

I AM transsexual. I'm not necessarily proud of it. But the way I see things saying I'm proud to be transsexual would be a bit... off.

I am proud to be who I am, and that's a strong intelligent individual, who happens to be a woman who happened to be misidentified male at birth and happens to have physical characteristics of both, who has had to struggle her entire life just to understand the situation she's found herself in due to those facts.

Everyone else here is free to be who they are and proud to be such... As long as they don't go around trying to pretend theirs is the only true way of gender.