[spanky (aka Lola)]

My circumstances are that I am not pursuing any NBE at present, other than spearmint (which may or may not have any effect). Last year I took FG, RC and SP for about three months, without having thought it all through sufficiently, but decided that I could not continue without resolving several issues first. Most importantly, I decided that I had to make sure my wife would accept the results. I also was not certain, at that time, that I was ready to make permanent changes in my body.

I have no doubt that one could poke holes in my wife's thinking. However, I am asking a lot of her in this regard, so I understand that the whole process may be very disconcerting for her. When we discuss the subject next, I will try to explore her "either/or" stance. I believe she may not have come to terms with the fact (or even possibility) that gender and sex is not a simple "choose one or the other" matter.

I also can imagine that she is bewildered at the thought of dealing with family and friends and their reactions if my body were to undergo pronounced changes. The truth is that, at present, I do not envision making enormous changes (pun intended). I plan to address this with her as well.

I really appreciate the thoughtful input and welcome more.