[Anastasia916]

He is avoiding them BECAUSE of your insecurity. After reading this it's obvious. I was a tomboy growing up, all my friends were guys mainly, and I've been told I often think like a guy. Might be why I'm a female working in a male dominated industry. So anyway... did he avoid them before you told him about your insecurity? If not, it really sounds to me like he's avoiding them as to not upset you. And if he has videos of girls with big breasts... well I had to learn this myself... but guys like variety. Would you rather him have a flick of it, or actually go out and get a girl on the side like that? Unfortunately males are not wired to be monogamous like females. Especially in all species males are made to spread their seed to as many females as possible to create their offspring. Which is why I believe in most countries the female population outnumbers the male. So, does my husband look at girls that are not like me? ALL THE TIME!!! I'm short, curvy and considered "overweight" for my height. He sometimes looks at what I call sticks. Girls with no hips, butt, boobs, etc. and are majorly skinny. Then I see him looking at girls who are skinny but with big butts and hips, like I was before NBE. Then he will look at girls with big boobs and no butt and then hourglasses. Males have no type. Let me say that again, MALES HAVE NO TYPE! They say they do, they are lying. They like many types. Some might not like a specific type, but they will still like more than one type of girl, make sense? Kind of like me, I've dated tall, short, skinny, fat, and every color of the rainbow. When my husband saw some of my exes through meeting them or through pics, he could not figure out my "type" lol they were all random! Why? Because I go by personality, connection, chemistry, etc. I also find many different type of men sexy.

So let me ask you, if you were to look at a man that was a different type than your man, and he got jealous/insecure... how would that make you feel?

Looking is not cheating. I'm actually bisexual, but I prefer dating men... no offense ladies, but they are less complicated and less emotional, basically less drama.

Now even though I understand men, does not mean I am perfect and do not have my own insecurities. There have been times I got into it with my husband for him looking at other girls, porn, etc. But then I think about it and we talk it over... and I realize... he could be out there with them, he's just using these pictures and porn as an outlet. Cause I guarantee if I was to take off my clothes or even wear something sexy, he's all over me. Hell, most the time I could wear a trash bag and he still would lol. So your man rubbing all over you and wanting you is a sign you have nothing to worry about, so cheer up smile and just enjoy.