[AbiDrew85]

Some may disagree with me, but generally speaking, a transsexual is a person whose body and mind are not in sync, i.e., female brain, but male body, or male brain, but female body, hence the need, not desire, but need, to change the body to match the mind since attempts to change the mind to match the body have all failed; it appears to be hard-wired.

Exactly. That's the KEY difference between other forms of gender variance and a classic transsexual. For us there's a NEED, not just a desire, but a very real, very PRESSING need to be the opposite of what people expect us to given our genetics.

There's also people who are transgender simply for choosing to change gender representation when they learn they were actually intersexed and their previously latent sexual organs begin to assert themselves. They still qualify as transgender because they still had the incorrect term applied to them at one point.

It's a great big rainbow with not just different hues, but variances in brightness and shade, and in saturation. It's a spectrum, truly, not even a sliding scale.

But my point earlier, besides just making sure SOMEONE made a warning, was that in every way *I* can think of, the OP sounds like a classic transsexual. The absolute extreme end of the "mismatch" side, opposite the absolute extreme of a match. (Your stereotypical super butch heterosexual manly man or your stereotypical girly girl who were actually born in those genders).

She may not be a heterosexual girly girl, but she's definitely well over towards that direction. Like me. I'm a girly girl, but I'm bi, but with a slightly greater preference for men. I think. I'm honestly not completely sure on that, cuz girls DO turn me on. A lot. But mostly I'm imagining myself as being them when I'm watching movies, and in sexual scenes... yeah... I'm both enjoying seeing the girls... and I'm dreaming about BEING one of them. And getting in on the action, either from another girl or a guy. But mostly I just want someone to cuddle most of the time. It's really hard to describe... And just as hard to wrap my own head around exactly what's going on in there.