[Gerilynn]

I have a positive wife too. I have tried over the years to come out to her in different ways with poor results because I did not accept myself and could not express who I was and how I felt to her.

I have with the help of friends and a wonderful counselor gotten past most of that. While I know myself to be transgender, for lack of a better word, I have lacked the confidence to act. I had come to a point I had to do something even if it might damage my relationship.

Now my wife of 18 years has accepted me more than I have myself which has done wonders for my confidence. Even though I am 6 ft 5 in and close to 300 lbs she has helped me find clothes and express myself by growing my hair. I will never be a beauty but I will be myself and she will be there too. It is amazing how much the people in our lives know about us and we suspect nothing.

I know that my experience may not be typical. I had to act and I am still working on being open honest and sharing with my wife. I kept a large part of myself closed for years, a lifetime, and the wall does not come down all at once. Trust Love and hopefully we will all be with loving, caring supportive partners.