[bryony]

I am male so.its very difficult to say "baby I know you will refuse the idea but I want.to be open.and honest. I did some Googling and found a fairly cheap herbal product completely safe that will.enhance.my chest.to a more female fashion just want you to.know.I am.going.to try it.out. I think.personally it would make me.feel.better and more confident and whole as a person and.I.think.it.will dramatically.increase our sex life I don't wish or.want to be a woman just have larger chest. I understand this may make.u not.want.to be with me.but just want to be honest so.u know" or would that not be a good.way to break.it to.her

That's pretty much what I said, in meaning if not the actual words.
However, I had come out as a someone with a pressing need to crossdress when I proposed to her. If I'd know the real truth then, I would have told her that. It's definitely not something should try, or even can, get away with.

Also, no point in hiding behind the fact that you are male. To want what you want, you almost certainly have a somewhat feminised brain.

There's a saying I've heard from your part of the world: You pay now or you pay later, but you still pay.

Don't mean to be a downer, but you aren't going to going to be able to avoid the truth at some stage.

B.