04-12-2011, 01:07 AM
Hi Karen,
Ouch. Which bits? I'm happy to have a rational discussion about it, but unless you can back it up, it could be considered an ad-hominem attack....
Is that true, or an opinion? E.g. I can't "Truly feel" what a paedophile does, yet I feel justified in condemning their actions, as I'm sure you do to. Therefore, your statement is already shaky, I fear.
It's a shame you were vague about what I said that makes you say that, so I'll make an assumption:
I was giving my opinion, not judgement, about people with wives getting GRS; I said I couldn't understand why they would want to become lesbians and essentially force their wives to become lesbians too.
Note that I also said that I have no problem with unattached people, particular homosexual TSs getting GRS, so it is not the operation per se
I don't know how many of my postings you've read, but if you look at
this: Bryony's opinions , you will see that the only "judgement" I have is reserved for people who (I feel) are ill-treating their wives. I may be old fashioned, but it boils down to this:
a) you marry for love
b) love entails sacrifice, up to and including death.
Call me a romantic, but I strongly feel that anyone who proceeds with a course as drastic as GRS without the whole-hearted buy-in from their wife, is guilty of a supreme act of selfishness, and if they think they love their wife then they are kidding themselves.
I will accept that I am being judgemental there, but hey, that's how I feel.
I'm happy to have a rational, logical, dispassionate, coherent discussion on any other points I made which you consider judgemental, and back up my assertions, (but maybe we should do that in another thread?
)
Another poster advised that we should all start with "In my opinion" and
end with "But I could be wrong." I'd like to take that as read, but I will try to do that in future!
B.
(03-12-2011, 11:26 PM)karen Wrote: Carefull there Bryony .....
There are glimpses of Chrissie showing in you .... maybe from a different perspective but the undertones of judgement are begininng to show their ugly face.
Ouch. Which bits? I'm happy to have a rational discussion about it, but unless you can back it up, it could be considered an ad-hominem attack....
Quote:I can olny say that until a person "TRUELY FEELS" what it's like to be inside of someone elses existance they really shouldn't sit in judgement of their decisions or feelings .....
Is that true, or an opinion? E.g. I can't "Truly feel" what a paedophile does, yet I feel justified in condemning their actions, as I'm sure you do to. Therefore, your statement is already shaky, I fear.
It's a shame you were vague about what I said that makes you say that, so I'll make an assumption:
I was giving my opinion, not judgement, about people with wives getting GRS; I said I couldn't understand why they would want to become lesbians and essentially force their wives to become lesbians too.
Note that I also said that I have no problem with unattached people, particular homosexual TSs getting GRS, so it is not the operation per se
I don't know how many of my postings you've read, but if you look at
this: Bryony's opinions , you will see that the only "judgement" I have is reserved for people who (I feel) are ill-treating their wives. I may be old fashioned, but it boils down to this:
a) you marry for love
b) love entails sacrifice, up to and including death.
Call me a romantic, but I strongly feel that anyone who proceeds with a course as drastic as GRS without the whole-hearted buy-in from their wife, is guilty of a supreme act of selfishness, and if they think they love their wife then they are kidding themselves.
I will accept that I am being judgemental there, but hey, that's how I feel.
I'm happy to have a rational, logical, dispassionate, coherent discussion on any other points I made which you consider judgemental, and back up my assertions, (but maybe we should do that in another thread?
)Another poster advised that we should all start with "In my opinion" and
end with "But I could be wrong." I'd like to take that as read, but I will try to do that in future!
B.