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Your approach sounds like a mentally healthy one, dargona. Congrats on having the courage to be open with your wife about it, and it's good to hear things are moving in a positive direction for you.

I think there are a lot more people "in the middle" than the straw poll would show because I believe a very hefty portion (maybe 80% or more?) of those who would be in that bucket absolutely will not admit it even to themselves. I think we should count ourselves among the fortunate few who have whatever it is that allows us to explore that aspect of ourselves instead of continuing to repress it to our inevitable ends. I really doubt the ones who allow themselves to be held trapped by the social views of the moment will ever do much to help take the species anywhere along evolution's path.

Welcome to the revolution!