12-06-2011, 12:30 AM
Hi there, new member here. I believe Blanchard's coining of the term autogynephilia and his definition of it, i.e., "...as a male’s propensity to be erotically aroused by the thought or image of himself as a woman." actually only describes part of the psycho-sexual dynamic.
As a bisexual male exploring more and more of his inner feminine characteristics, I would say that my imagining myself as a passive woman during intercourse with a man (and I don't perceive myself in any way as being 'gay'), is part of the essential sexual and erotic enjoyment. I am not confused, I am very mentally healthy and enjoy sex with men. When I am with a woman, I am wholly masculine, and not thinking about myself as a woman.
I was born male, and grew to be an adult male, and I have enjoyed a healthy sex life. I am not promiscuous, never have been, but as I have become older, I have also become more passive in my psychology, and want to have more sex with men: not as a gay man, but as a feminized male, because that fits in with my enjoyment of the sex, and my sense of its fulfillment, and the satisfaction received.
Of course, being more pliantly passive, one could suggest that I like to experience elements of male domination in terms of being a receiver, and that might ring true. Yet, I really do like imagining and acting out my side of the sex encounter with a man as if I were a woman.
I already have small, but naturally formed breasts, and want to grow them bigger...which is why I have come to this forum (and that of Cheryl's) to do research and to get advice. I don't want to go full transition, but I do want to feminize enough so that I can half match my physical appearance to that of my imaginings. I want to be able to wear female clothing, and should an encounter arise, to be seduced as a woman.
I do not doubt that there are men, when making love to a woman, gain psychological eroticism by sympathetically immersing themselves into the position of the woman, but sex is a process of habituation, where repetition ingrains sexual triggers, more so and especially at the early formative years. Such repetitive psycho-sexual imaginings may over time become the 'normal' response mechanism to gaining enjoyment of sex with a woman.
I would also like to add that autogynephilia cascades echoes of Venus envy.
As a bisexual male exploring more and more of his inner feminine characteristics, I would say that my imagining myself as a passive woman during intercourse with a man (and I don't perceive myself in any way as being 'gay'), is part of the essential sexual and erotic enjoyment. I am not confused, I am very mentally healthy and enjoy sex with men. When I am with a woman, I am wholly masculine, and not thinking about myself as a woman.
I was born male, and grew to be an adult male, and I have enjoyed a healthy sex life. I am not promiscuous, never have been, but as I have become older, I have also become more passive in my psychology, and want to have more sex with men: not as a gay man, but as a feminized male, because that fits in with my enjoyment of the sex, and my sense of its fulfillment, and the satisfaction received.
Of course, being more pliantly passive, one could suggest that I like to experience elements of male domination in terms of being a receiver, and that might ring true. Yet, I really do like imagining and acting out my side of the sex encounter with a man as if I were a woman.
I already have small, but naturally formed breasts, and want to grow them bigger...which is why I have come to this forum (and that of Cheryl's) to do research and to get advice. I don't want to go full transition, but I do want to feminize enough so that I can half match my physical appearance to that of my imaginings. I want to be able to wear female clothing, and should an encounter arise, to be seduced as a woman.
I do not doubt that there are men, when making love to a woman, gain psychological eroticism by sympathetically immersing themselves into the position of the woman, but sex is a process of habituation, where repetition ingrains sexual triggers, more so and especially at the early formative years. Such repetitive psycho-sexual imaginings may over time become the 'normal' response mechanism to gaining enjoyment of sex with a woman.
I would also like to add that autogynephilia cascades echoes of Venus envy.