Yesterday, 07:21 AM
Hi Nephele. 
I'm used to this kinda gaslighting. Every time I get vocal about transmisia, intermisia, just generally bad behaviour or about being treated badly, the gaslighting happens. "Stop overreacting." "Its not that bad." "It wasn't aimed at me so shut up." Or that its "escalating."
I do agree that BN forum has mostly been a positive experience but it wont make the all the bullshit magically disappear either. I've been attacked repeatedly(Maybe 1-3 per year, so not much. On crappier site it would be daily.) here and more often as time goes by. The latest thing of course wasn't an attack but a false blanket statement which was so obviously transphobic and misogynistic I wont let it fly without speaking out.
The whole boobs for genetic males/biological men, male typical what ever, its all kinda stupidly exclusive. If I would be the one to dwecide, I would take away all gender/sex exclusive crap about the forum just so that it would be more appealing to trans and intersex people. Its not like we're really loved in here, almost all others have left. I've been contemplating it many times but I've stayed so that I could help my sisters who end up posting here... I'm on the fence about it and every time some stupid forum crap comes up, I feel less enthusiastic about posting more.
Its so typical, I've faced similar bs online so much, BN is one of the least offensive sites, but its slowly been getting worse. Over all attitudes have worsened in last few years. Just taking it without saying anything wont solve a thing. I will not stop pointing it out when some douchebag repeats lies about transition not being what it is. Same with anyone coming up with obviously trans/interphobia and misogyny. Gaslighting and pointing fingers at me in those situations is useless, it wont shut me up.
I'm used to this kinda gaslighting. Every time I get vocal about transmisia, intermisia, just generally bad behaviour or about being treated badly, the gaslighting happens. "Stop overreacting." "Its not that bad." "It wasn't aimed at me so shut up." Or that its "escalating."
I do agree that BN forum has mostly been a positive experience but it wont make the all the bullshit magically disappear either. I've been attacked repeatedly(Maybe 1-3 per year, so not much. On crappier site it would be daily.) here and more often as time goes by. The latest thing of course wasn't an attack but a false blanket statement which was so obviously transphobic and misogynistic I wont let it fly without speaking out.
The whole boobs for genetic males/biological men, male typical what ever, its all kinda stupidly exclusive. If I would be the one to dwecide, I would take away all gender/sex exclusive crap about the forum just so that it would be more appealing to trans and intersex people. Its not like we're really loved in here, almost all others have left. I've been contemplating it many times but I've stayed so that I could help my sisters who end up posting here... I'm on the fence about it and every time some stupid forum crap comes up, I feel less enthusiastic about posting more.
Its so typical, I've faced similar bs online so much, BN is one of the least offensive sites, but its slowly been getting worse. Over all attitudes have worsened in last few years. Just taking it without saying anything wont solve a thing. I will not stop pointing it out when some douchebag repeats lies about transition not being what it is. Same with anyone coming up with obviously trans/interphobia and misogyny. Gaslighting and pointing fingers at me in those situations is useless, it wont shut me up.