23-01-2026, 09:03 PM
What is "male" even? We atribute definitions to these titles through an arbitrary consensus the masses have decided is the definition. People still cant seperate the definition of biological sex and gender even though there has been a split in motion for many years now. In the end of the day you are whoever you decide to be no one else decides that for you.
My wife likes to put it this way, its your life customize your avitar however you want. Who cares about the labels people want to put on you. In the end of the day if you are happy and the people you cherish are unbothered nothing else matters. Wear the feminine cloths, explore your options without restrictions and find out as much about yourself as you can.
I spent my entire life with an uncontrollable gravitation to feminine clothing, satin anything would draw me in. The softer and more feminine it was the more i was driven to it. Lived in a shame cycle because of societal expectations. Treated as though i was some kind of monster for wanting to wear these things and enjoying it.
In my mid 20s, i dated a girl who had a kink in exploiting it and humiliating me with it. While on one hand i got to do it, on the other hand the shame and embarassment was still attached. And that never quite resolved it for me.
Fast forward 10 years later, i have a wife of 7 years who openly supported whatever choice of clothing i wanted to make, 3 years straight wearing panties 90% of the time. We have matching pairs and have fun planning wearing them on the same day. I joined this group because i wanted to shape my body into a more feminine shape to fit the clothing i wanted to wear a bit better. I grew some modest breasts with PM and other herbal combinations and still managed to maintain a healthy unhindered sex life with my wife. I might not be the exact shape or form i would like to be, but my fashion choice feels more natural now.
I wear the cloths for me so i layer pretty heavily for work so my bra does not show while i work. I didnt need one at first but now it feels weird to go without. no one seems to be any wiser to the fact that i am wearing one. And i dont really desire to advertise it to the world.
Wearing panties has allowed me to try different clothing options in my personal time as well, often at home my outfit choice is an oversized hoodie, and leggings. Its almost unfair how comfortable leggings are. I also have some satin shorts and pants that feel really great against freshly shaven legs. If you feel brave enough to explore further i would highly recomend trying it.
Womens bootcut jeans are also quite nice, and no one really notices if they are for women or men, if they fit well they just look good. Plus the tighter fit with the panties helps. You can find many ways to continue to explore if you desire to do so. At this point 60% of my wardrobe is feminine. I cant really wear feminine shirts outside of tunic types due to having a long torso, so my t shirts are mainly male. I do have some cami tunic tops that i use for layering.
Even with all that, i still consider myself "male" even if i probably dont fit the societal definition of what it should be. Im a great husband and father, Im happy living my life the way i want to. and it soulds like you are on your way there as well.
I would just leave you with this piece of advice, don't hold yourself back, embrace it, explore it, and accept it. Pretty soon it wont be a marvel anymore but you simply being you, happy and unapologetic. Cookie cutter definitions can fuck right off.
My wife likes to put it this way, its your life customize your avitar however you want. Who cares about the labels people want to put on you. In the end of the day if you are happy and the people you cherish are unbothered nothing else matters. Wear the feminine cloths, explore your options without restrictions and find out as much about yourself as you can.
I spent my entire life with an uncontrollable gravitation to feminine clothing, satin anything would draw me in. The softer and more feminine it was the more i was driven to it. Lived in a shame cycle because of societal expectations. Treated as though i was some kind of monster for wanting to wear these things and enjoying it.
In my mid 20s, i dated a girl who had a kink in exploiting it and humiliating me with it. While on one hand i got to do it, on the other hand the shame and embarassment was still attached. And that never quite resolved it for me.
Fast forward 10 years later, i have a wife of 7 years who openly supported whatever choice of clothing i wanted to make, 3 years straight wearing panties 90% of the time. We have matching pairs and have fun planning wearing them on the same day. I joined this group because i wanted to shape my body into a more feminine shape to fit the clothing i wanted to wear a bit better. I grew some modest breasts with PM and other herbal combinations and still managed to maintain a healthy unhindered sex life with my wife. I might not be the exact shape or form i would like to be, but my fashion choice feels more natural now.
I wear the cloths for me so i layer pretty heavily for work so my bra does not show while i work. I didnt need one at first but now it feels weird to go without. no one seems to be any wiser to the fact that i am wearing one. And i dont really desire to advertise it to the world.
Wearing panties has allowed me to try different clothing options in my personal time as well, often at home my outfit choice is an oversized hoodie, and leggings. Its almost unfair how comfortable leggings are. I also have some satin shorts and pants that feel really great against freshly shaven legs. If you feel brave enough to explore further i would highly recomend trying it.
Womens bootcut jeans are also quite nice, and no one really notices if they are for women or men, if they fit well they just look good. Plus the tighter fit with the panties helps. You can find many ways to continue to explore if you desire to do so. At this point 60% of my wardrobe is feminine. I cant really wear feminine shirts outside of tunic types due to having a long torso, so my t shirts are mainly male. I do have some cami tunic tops that i use for layering.
Even with all that, i still consider myself "male" even if i probably dont fit the societal definition of what it should be. Im a great husband and father, Im happy living my life the way i want to. and it soulds like you are on your way there as well.
I would just leave you with this piece of advice, don't hold yourself back, embrace it, explore it, and accept it. Pretty soon it wont be a marvel anymore but you simply being you, happy and unapologetic. Cookie cutter definitions can fuck right off.