[Heaven's Night]

Your story isn't new, this keeps repeating so much, and there's no easy solution to it. I can't offer understanding for your life situation as mine is completely different. I had super easy choise of transitioning as there was nothing to stop me and I got lucky with understanding partner. It was almost a clean slate anyway, no long history, no kids and so on.

I will advice you with a question, which matters to you the most, easy life with family or your authenticity? Your own happiness or ease of existence of those around you? Its not you having to face the changes in that way, its people around you. They must transition their minds as you transition your body.

Will you live true to yourself or go to your grave as you lived for others?