31-08-2024, 09:52 AM
Thanks for the replies, most interesting
Tomi66 - A big well done to you for losing 30+pounds, that takes some doing, but as you have seen, loads of benefits including health and fem filling out. My Mam was a brill thank you, in reality, the clothes she allowed me to wear were really just girls versions of the boys, she actually admitted to me that she liked how they fitted better and liked how she could choose from a wider range of colours.
LOL, my younger brother had longish hair when he was young and he had the same happen to him, we ribbed him so much that eventually he had a short back and sides LOL
Interesting that you relate to some of my experiences, and the one major difference I see is that you like to dress and feel feminine, whereas if I put something on and I feel or look feminine I take it off / don't buy it.
Whilst on HRT I have had times were I've wanted to wear earrings, (both ears were pierced when I was 19), so I put either my plain silver studs or small hoops in, but guaranteed to take them out after five or ten minutes as I think they look too fem.
Over the years and whilst on HRT I've ended up with three dresses, a plain blue midi, a stripped rugby and sweatshirt style, but each time I try them on again I usually end up taking them off soon after as I look/feel to feminine. So for me I've accepted that dresses are just too fem for my style.
CM213 - thanks for the links, I've looked through the susans site before and never found anything that resonates with me, but I'll dig more into both sites.
However, I think I'm a bit of an outlier male staying male, enjoying the changes HRT brings.
I agree with you regarding facial surgery etc, as that would be the logical step for transitioning, but I'd never have surgery facial as I have zero desire to transition. Maybe that will change in time, but at the moment I really cannot see that happening.
Personally, I feel that I could be on HRT long term and still pass as male, OK maybe a bit of an odd looking male. I know we cant pick and chose what HRT does for us, but I'm not after huge breast & hips just a decent fem shape, so once I'm there or thereabouts I'll back off HRT and go on a maintenance program. Which is all fine with me.
Caylee - Fantastic and good luck, you clearly have a gem of a wife.
Csquared- Very interesting take on my situation thanks.
Once I discovered girls, I was hooked, oh what a fool I am LOL but yes the attraction at 11 was not shape wise as at that age there is little difference, so it was more about the wider choice of style they had. I had a half sized wardrobe with a couple of jeans, jumpers, school stuff and my Sunday best in whereas my then (1st GF!) had two wardrobes full of jeans, skirts, jumpsuits, dungarees, etc, etc. It was seeing her turn up in completely different outfits each day that prompted me to question, 'why do boys not have more choice of clothes?'
Thankfully my Mam understood and agreed so bought girls clothes that were just subtly different from the boys stuff - one trend was girls jeans had a thin red pinstripe sewn into the outside seam, boys jeans never had that! Lots of girls t-shirts were cap sleeved instead of the usual short sleeves on boys T's. Both subtle variation and both of which my Man bought me. The two major outside the norms were dungarees and jumpsuit she bought me, the only boy dungarees were for toddlers, and jumpsuits or rather boilersuits were all mens sized, so what I wore was clearly from the girls side, but always very plain and simple styled, therefore fitting her decree absolute that I had to look like a boy.
I agree I think I've anesthetised myself in certain ways, wearing clothes from the women section, painting my nails etc, However, I do always revert back to not wanting to be feminine, so clothes are still plain and practical (pockets
) nail polish nothing to bright, etc.
I'll do a follow up post about body shape etc as there's more to think on that.
Maybe I have transitioned, but not in the usual sense?
Stevenator - love that, actually that's just reminded me I need to slap some oestrogel on LOL
Tomi66 - A big well done to you for losing 30+pounds, that takes some doing, but as you have seen, loads of benefits including health and fem filling out. My Mam was a brill thank you, in reality, the clothes she allowed me to wear were really just girls versions of the boys, she actually admitted to me that she liked how they fitted better and liked how she could choose from a wider range of colours.
LOL, my younger brother had longish hair when he was young and he had the same happen to him, we ribbed him so much that eventually he had a short back and sides LOL
Interesting that you relate to some of my experiences, and the one major difference I see is that you like to dress and feel feminine, whereas if I put something on and I feel or look feminine I take it off / don't buy it.
Whilst on HRT I have had times were I've wanted to wear earrings, (both ears were pierced when I was 19), so I put either my plain silver studs or small hoops in, but guaranteed to take them out after five or ten minutes as I think they look too fem.
Over the years and whilst on HRT I've ended up with three dresses, a plain blue midi, a stripped rugby and sweatshirt style, but each time I try them on again I usually end up taking them off soon after as I look/feel to feminine. So for me I've accepted that dresses are just too fem for my style.
CM213 - thanks for the links, I've looked through the susans site before and never found anything that resonates with me, but I'll dig more into both sites.
However, I think I'm a bit of an outlier male staying male, enjoying the changes HRT brings.
I agree with you regarding facial surgery etc, as that would be the logical step for transitioning, but I'd never have surgery facial as I have zero desire to transition. Maybe that will change in time, but at the moment I really cannot see that happening.
Personally, I feel that I could be on HRT long term and still pass as male, OK maybe a bit of an odd looking male. I know we cant pick and chose what HRT does for us, but I'm not after huge breast & hips just a decent fem shape, so once I'm there or thereabouts I'll back off HRT and go on a maintenance program. Which is all fine with me.
Caylee - Fantastic and good luck, you clearly have a gem of a wife.
Csquared- Very interesting take on my situation thanks.
Once I discovered girls, I was hooked, oh what a fool I am LOL but yes the attraction at 11 was not shape wise as at that age there is little difference, so it was more about the wider choice of style they had. I had a half sized wardrobe with a couple of jeans, jumpers, school stuff and my Sunday best in whereas my then (1st GF!) had two wardrobes full of jeans, skirts, jumpsuits, dungarees, etc, etc. It was seeing her turn up in completely different outfits each day that prompted me to question, 'why do boys not have more choice of clothes?'
Thankfully my Mam understood and agreed so bought girls clothes that were just subtly different from the boys stuff - one trend was girls jeans had a thin red pinstripe sewn into the outside seam, boys jeans never had that! Lots of girls t-shirts were cap sleeved instead of the usual short sleeves on boys T's. Both subtle variation and both of which my Man bought me. The two major outside the norms were dungarees and jumpsuit she bought me, the only boy dungarees were for toddlers, and jumpsuits or rather boilersuits were all mens sized, so what I wore was clearly from the girls side, but always very plain and simple styled, therefore fitting her decree absolute that I had to look like a boy.
I agree I think I've anesthetised myself in certain ways, wearing clothes from the women section, painting my nails etc, However, I do always revert back to not wanting to be feminine, so clothes are still plain and practical (pockets
) nail polish nothing to bright, etc.I'll do a follow up post about body shape etc as there's more to think on that.
Maybe I have transitioned, but not in the usual sense?
Stevenator - love that, actually that's just reminded me I need to slap some oestrogel on LOL