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Can I carve out a solution to have breasts with a more female shaped body, wear mostly womens clothes and do all the other feminine associated things I do and stay male, or have I socially transitioned by stealth ???

I wouldn't call that stealth.....maybe subconsciously you've been transitioning based on your admiration of the female form.  That turned into an appreciation for the way clothes fit YOUR feminized shape and the way your hormones make you feel add to the gender appeal of being feminine.  Many of us have been "in transition" long before we even realized it.  For context.....  I do my own nails, no body hair, same piercings as you, makeup, etc... all many years BEFORE starting HRT and admitting I was trans.  Still not sure if I will stay male, but it doesn't feel like I will much longer.  Since you've been able to exercise and express your self over many years, there might be a correlation with having NO dysphoric traits associated with feminine expressions.  (I've learned alot about this stuff trying to explain my own feelings)  In many ways, you might have transitioned more than some but never really labeled it as such.  Just my 2 cents, but would love to talk some more!