[kanony]

Thanks Blue, thats pretty good advice.
I've been slowly plucking and depilating the darker and denser hair patches, which kinda works to improve the appearance, but it really has limits and is slow going.
So yeah, coming out with this idea really would be better and faster. 
Unfortunately my partner clings pretty strongly to the idea of what a traditional man should look and act like so I doubt she'd be on board with the idea willingly. She tends to shoot down most of my expressions of gender noncomformance. I think its mostly just compromise and preservation on her part - I might have too big of a chest for a man in her opinion, but at least I'm still hairy and have a beard - something along these lines.
But I will definitely take the opportunity to suggest this when an opportunity arises.