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Apparently I missed the part between the phone call and the hospital?

But, in my past I've had multiple women I was romantically involved with that flipped TF out when I confessed my love of sucking dick. So, the good thing is that you're not alone.

I'd pose you question on r/AITA and I bet you'd get several hundred replies.

Hello, thank you for your response

 I think I might not have explained myself well (I wrote from the hospital), but what makes me distrustful is that he didn't tell me earlier, even when we've discussed everything. He's talking about having a future together and he suddenly dared to deceive me about his age (this happened a few months ago): these are things that seem very strange to me, to first give one age, then another, and then turn out to be younger than me. That is, if I like you, I will like you whether you're 28, 34, or 98 years old. Age isn't definitive, you can be with someone much older than you and it works perfectly, or vice versa, be with someone 15 years younger than you and they are the love of your life. In our case, I'm 30 and he's 28; I don't know why he lied, the age difference isn't huge. Then there's the fact that he confesses his preferences through jokes (jokes that we've already made, about girls, about boys, saying who's hot in the entertainment world, who's the most beautiful international model, etc.) where he's very explicit about what he likes to do with boys, but he's never explained to me what he likes in bed with me... for instance. He also hasn't complimented other girls or anything like that. Hence my uncertainty and feeling that he might be playing games. I've told him everything about my life and my situation, and I'm realizing that I hardly know him.


The question is about finding out what he likes, if we're on the same page. And I'm talking about types of relationships (monogamous, open), sexual practices, etc. I'm not sure about the United States, but in Spain polyamory is becoming increasingly common, and I see that most bisexual people I know practice it to some degree. I also know of some heterosexual couples, but I have more references within the LGBTQ+ community. As I've said before, I'm not one to judge anyone's sexual preferences, but I believe I have the right to expect mutual honesty. Of course, I find it ridiculous that as soon as you meet someone, you classify yourself as if it were customs (Hello, my name is_____ and I'm a heterosexual from ____). I know the world doesn't work like that. But I've BEEN getting to know him for months, and I don't think the excuse of "biphobia exists" is fair. 
Of course it exists, but there are also a thousand other issues related to romantic and sexual relationships that also deserve to be validated (for the record, I'm not saying that you or someone on the forum isn't validating them, only that I believe a relationship isn't just about what you're sexually into; there are thousands of other elements to consider which get overlooked. And it seems like the easy way out to only talk about what you're sexually attracted to, and if you're not respected, everything is labeled as phobia, but when it's other issues, they get overlooked or minimized)



Though, I understand that everyone decides when to talk about their sexuality , but I think waiting 6 months is excessive, especially to then communicate it by saying "I'd totally hook up with Henry Cavill" - I just got hurt, that's all. 


Anyway...Thank you, Stevenator for listening to me