22-10-2023, 01:56 PM
(This post was last modified: 22-10-2023, 02:06 PM by Heaven's Night.)
EDIT: This is personal talk subforum, threads here don't need to have anything to do with NBE...
Firstly, you're not being homophobic, secondly you have right to know this guy as its obviously going deeper and possibly more intimate and important than casual frienship. Of course, he can not disclose what ever he wishes to keep to himself? But its not nice in the slightest... I can say how I personally deal with my private stuff, sexual orientation is one of the first I make clear if things seem serious. Transition and medical stuff comes much later as that is very private information which is totally not everybody's business. Not even a potential love interest, until they become closer and it seems that things might go serious. I think this is the way to deal with these things which are important, but not something to be told to anyone, anywhere.
Then again, I don't think we owe anyone explanations about these matters, but when getting to really know someone and close, I at least want any potential partner to actually know me. Might be different for this guy in question?
About cis bi men... I don't trust them one bit. Firstly, many of them are gays in disguise, they're actually all into men, but saying they're bisexual is socially more acceptable and lot of them are also in denial. To a lot of them its a fantasy or a fetish, the thing about men being purely sexual. Also a lot of them search pre/non op trans women to make that happen. Thinking trans women are more acceptable being feminine enough but they still don't even recognise us as women at all. I don't trust bi guys, too many have huge red flags all over them. Of course I can't tell about this particular guy in question. Just that my experience about these guys is not good at all. Then again, straight guys are much worse. At least to any minority woman like me.
THen again, I'm biased on giving advice about men as my experience is exceptionally bad. They have all been assholes to me with very few exceptions.
Firstly, you're not being homophobic, secondly you have right to know this guy as its obviously going deeper and possibly more intimate and important than casual frienship. Of course, he can not disclose what ever he wishes to keep to himself? But its not nice in the slightest... I can say how I personally deal with my private stuff, sexual orientation is one of the first I make clear if things seem serious. Transition and medical stuff comes much later as that is very private information which is totally not everybody's business. Not even a potential love interest, until they become closer and it seems that things might go serious. I think this is the way to deal with these things which are important, but not something to be told to anyone, anywhere.
Then again, I don't think we owe anyone explanations about these matters, but when getting to really know someone and close, I at least want any potential partner to actually know me. Might be different for this guy in question?
About cis bi men... I don't trust them one bit. Firstly, many of them are gays in disguise, they're actually all into men, but saying they're bisexual is socially more acceptable and lot of them are also in denial. To a lot of them its a fantasy or a fetish, the thing about men being purely sexual. Also a lot of them search pre/non op trans women to make that happen. Thinking trans women are more acceptable being feminine enough but they still don't even recognise us as women at all. I don't trust bi guys, too many have huge red flags all over them. Of course I can't tell about this particular guy in question. Just that my experience about these guys is not good at all. Then again, straight guys are much worse. At least to any minority woman like me.
THen again, I'm biased on giving advice about men as my experience is exceptionally bad. They have all been assholes to me with very few exceptions.