07-08-2023, 03:27 PM
My 10 cents...
Sex and gender are not the same thing. Wanting or liking to be penetrated doesn't make one a woman. Actually, women don't have a prostate so whatever you feel while playing with your dildo is something a woman wouldn't understand. It's impossible to know what the other genetic gender feels in some situations, we are just hardwired in a different way, so we can fantasize about it a lot but, in the end, our pleasure is our own brand. Even more: people of the same sex experience pleasure in completely different ways, so it's really hard to say that our liking a certain type of stimuli makes us closer to the other side.
Men have indulged in anal sex since the dawn of times, and it's only recently that it has been associated to being feminine. It's pleasure. Full stop. It's what your body likes.
I do understand that the passivity of being penetrated is associated with women's role in society. I completely get the erotic idea of "been womanly and being taken", but I absolutely deny the connection on the other side. While the idea of being feminine might take you to seeking passivity in sex, liking prostate simulation doesn't make you necessarily feminine.
There are millions of straight men out there who enjoy anal play, and most of them have no interest in being feminine.
I believe that we, here, are a lucky bunch when it comes to nipple and breast pleasure. Not many men know what it's like to have your estrogen enhanced boobs played with, suckled, and held. From my point of view, that's one more feeling that my body gives me and I actively seek it because it's pleasurable. I don't see myself as a woman just because I like breast play, and I don't even know if my wife feels the same I feel when I do to her what she does to me.
Free yourself from the need to match a stereotype. Be your own individual, experience and enjoy what your body gives you, and don't think that you have to adhere to what society says just because that's how things usually are.
Sex and gender are not the same thing. Wanting or liking to be penetrated doesn't make one a woman. Actually, women don't have a prostate so whatever you feel while playing with your dildo is something a woman wouldn't understand. It's impossible to know what the other genetic gender feels in some situations, we are just hardwired in a different way, so we can fantasize about it a lot but, in the end, our pleasure is our own brand. Even more: people of the same sex experience pleasure in completely different ways, so it's really hard to say that our liking a certain type of stimuli makes us closer to the other side.
Men have indulged in anal sex since the dawn of times, and it's only recently that it has been associated to being feminine. It's pleasure. Full stop. It's what your body likes.
I do understand that the passivity of being penetrated is associated with women's role in society. I completely get the erotic idea of "been womanly and being taken", but I absolutely deny the connection on the other side. While the idea of being feminine might take you to seeking passivity in sex, liking prostate simulation doesn't make you necessarily feminine.
There are millions of straight men out there who enjoy anal play, and most of them have no interest in being feminine.
I believe that we, here, are a lucky bunch when it comes to nipple and breast pleasure. Not many men know what it's like to have your estrogen enhanced boobs played with, suckled, and held. From my point of view, that's one more feeling that my body gives me and I actively seek it because it's pleasurable. I don't see myself as a woman just because I like breast play, and I don't even know if my wife feels the same I feel when I do to her what she does to me.
Free yourself from the need to match a stereotype. Be your own individual, experience and enjoy what your body gives you, and don't think that you have to adhere to what society says just because that's how things usually are.