[spanky (aka Lola)]

@Maksimovic
Sorry if I write in English. I can read French but I can't write in that language. I hope you can translate this message.

One of the topics that have been discussed the longest on this website, in many forms, is how normal/abnormal/right/wrong it os for a man to want some feminine traits, particularly breasts.
The reality is that feminine straight men exist and have always existed. What we all here try to become is nothing new. What's new with us is that we try to achieve something that other men move away from. Society says that a man can't be feminine or he is not a man, so man with breasts do surgeries yo remove them and look less like a woman so society will take them more seriously as men. I think that, in this part of the forum "males staying males" we all understand that there is more to being a man than just having a flat and muscular chest. 
A lot of our family experiences rotate on the need to convince our wives and families of the same thing. You can be a man, have responsibilities, be strong, etc... as society dictates, even if you have boobs, a thinner waist, and a plump ass.

Well said, Shirazm.  The last thing I would want to give up is to be there for my family.  For some of us, we don't really expect to "pass" and so we realize that we are likely becoming incongruent in the eyes of the judgmental many.  Soft round pegs in square holes.