[Shirazmn]

Drew,

I sympathize, but I also have to laugh just a bit.

This is the irony of NBE for males.  We go to all these lengths to make our bodies different from most men in a dramatic and noticeable fashion - and then we worry about how to keep from having people notice!

For my part, I don't care what most people think.  But there are a few whom I am close to that I worry quite a bit. And I always wonder, what do I say if some one asks "Why?".  I think the best I've come up with is, "Because I like having boobs." (It's never happened yet, since I don't have anything for them to ask about, but I wonder nevertheless.)

By the same token, it's the core of my dilemma WRT my wife.  She has said in no uncertain terms that she does not want an "effeminate" husband. She was thinking of long hair, feminine looking clothing, etc.  But here I am, contemplating feminizing my body in the most definable way possible.  And I'm thinking, can I do that and continue to say "I love you"?  Bears thinking about.

The duality of being men and wanting something so very feminine is strong and interesting, but I am not sure that they couldn't work together.
I read somewhere on this site, just a couple of days ago, of a guy who said that the trick with his wife was to keep her happy in bed. I would also add that to avoid being seen as "effeminate" there are many ways: do manual labour, be strong, do not push for our appearance to be feminine using things like pink make up, high heels, very tight clothing, etc... I believe that we can still look manly by the way we act and dress outside, and allow us some feminine distress in our free time or with our wife.
There are many effeminate men who are not trying to grow boobs, but their "femininity" is evident by the way they talk and move. I am trying to grow boobs but I am the office's arm wrestling "champion" and I can carry and move twice the weight as everyone I have around. 4 times what my wife can carry and move. I love to crossdress, and my wife doesn't care, but even when in drag I am far from looking like a woman. Once my wife said: "I don't mind if you crossdress as long as you remain my husband, and don't try to become my wife.". I understand and agree with that, and I believe that there's a lot of grey area where I can play in there, boobs or no boobs.