[Katie]

  I'm anxious to get to the point that I feel I have made it.  And the problem now is hoping that I have the courage and wisdom to know where the end point is.

XO
Aria

You`ll know when you get there, just listen to your heart!

of course, having said that, I, like yourself, also wanted to be able to pass as both and go out as either anytime I wanted, not bound to any one gender presentation. early on that seemed the perfect ideal.
the "problem" was that once I could go out en femme and passed without a problem, I liked it! i liked it a bit Too much in fact! LOL
and I never ever wanted to present as male ever again. I guess as a mechanism to enable to me transition fully whilst all the time feeling like I had "get out plan" helped me get what I REALLY wanted all along but was scared to admit (even to myself), I think my heart secretly knew all along this would be the case though, it was just useful to ignore it.

so definitely follow your heart and listen to what she says! xx