[Katie]

One really interesting thing that she made me realise

Is

Now dressing and expression is of equal or more importance than breasts
For years it's been all about breasts 

Um ?

Julie

Again, she`s perfectly correct! you have a Whole woman inside of you not just a body part  (you big tit!)! LOL
seriously though, she needs to be treated as a whole person too with all the aspects that Any person requires to be addressed. One of those will eventually be the need to Socialise as well.
when i forst started my transition it was all about Gender, and when I`d got all the other aspects of that covered more or less, I became lonely, I needed friends! not just the friends that i had, but friendships and connection with other women, I have that now, but at the time it was probably the most upsetting part of the whole thing, here I was gender free but at the same time still a prisoner socially.
so what started out about being just about gender, soon became about so much more than that! now i rarely even think about the gender side of things.
Making it all about "boobs" keeps it contained and controllable, just a single aspect that can be dealt with easily, sort of our brains way of not putting too much pressure on us in one go, still moving forwards in the direction it kbows it needs to go, but at the same time keeping it managable.
perfectly Human! it just means you`re growing (in other ways now). xx