(02-12-2017, 01:42 PM)Katie Wrote: is the sort of girl you want to Be the same sort of girl you`re Atracted to sexually?
Simply put: Yes, Absolutely!
About 3 or 4 years ago I realiised the answer to something that had puzzled me for a long time, and that allowed various other random unexplained things to drop into place.
Throughout my life there have been periods of time, some only a few months and some upto 4 or 5 years when the need to x-dress disappeared completely and then it would suddenly come back with a bang. At first I thought it was somehow associated with emotional trauma in my life, but that never quite seemed to fit. But then a few years ago it dawned on me that it was actually to do with the lady in my life at the time.
I could go into detail ( and I will if any one wants), but this would turn into a book, so suffice it to say that when the lady in my life would wear the sort of clothes, make up, etc, that I like, then my need to dress vanished. When we parted or the relationship changed, then my internal female erupted like a volcano.
One small illustration - back in my early 30's my first wife tolerated ( but no more than that) me dressing to some extent. One evening I went upstairs and dressed and came down again. I thought I looked good, but she said, "I just wish you woudn't look so tarty." Without thinking, as quick as a flash, my mouth answered, "If you did I wouldn't have to!". I had no idea where that came from, it wasn't a thought I had ever had before and I puzzled over it for the next 30 years. Only when I realised that I could control my own dressing need by being able to dress somebody else, did that outburst make sense.