30-08-2017, 02:25 PM
Aria!
I think you handled the situation well....but.
From what I have learned and experienced, this thing we do or which comes over us has devastating consequences for family life.
Most of the husband wife conversations are defensive on both sides. Wife doesnt want to be married to a woman or doesnt want to deal with a man that doesnt want to be a man any more. And the husband not understanding why she cant accept his new fondness for things feminine. So conversations are just back and forth defense. Never any real understand of whats going on or why.
The other is a relationship is where the husband asks for the help of his spouse to help understand whats happening to him. If there is love there, she will be willing to bend and flex and maybe enjoy having a girlfriend as well as a hubby.
Rules are set and as long as conversation continues life can be OK. Just because its ok with the spouse doesnt make it ok to suddenly drop your male side. Its still a fragile and slippery thing.
If your very lucky your wife will help you pick clothes, correct your male foibles and foopahs, and maybe tell you look nice.
I happened to be updating my interest in My Husband Betty and came across this interview that you might find of interest to get the understanding wifes perspective..kinda.
https://www.sisterhouse.net/familyroom/2013/12/29/an-update-on-helen-boyd-of-my-husband-betty/
Like Julie said you still have to drop the other HRT shoe.
But you have explained it many times to us so review your posts and see what you can come up with. I think the calming effect of the HRT might be your safest approach.
Huggs
Bobbi
I think you handled the situation well....but.
From what I have learned and experienced, this thing we do or which comes over us has devastating consequences for family life.
Most of the husband wife conversations are defensive on both sides. Wife doesnt want to be married to a woman or doesnt want to deal with a man that doesnt want to be a man any more. And the husband not understanding why she cant accept his new fondness for things feminine. So conversations are just back and forth defense. Never any real understand of whats going on or why.
The other is a relationship is where the husband asks for the help of his spouse to help understand whats happening to him. If there is love there, she will be willing to bend and flex and maybe enjoy having a girlfriend as well as a hubby.
Rules are set and as long as conversation continues life can be OK. Just because its ok with the spouse doesnt make it ok to suddenly drop your male side. Its still a fragile and slippery thing.
If your very lucky your wife will help you pick clothes, correct your male foibles and foopahs, and maybe tell you look nice.
I happened to be updating my interest in My Husband Betty and came across this interview that you might find of interest to get the understanding wifes perspective..kinda.
https://www.sisterhouse.net/familyroom/2013/12/29/an-update-on-helen-boyd-of-my-husband-betty/
Like Julie said you still have to drop the other HRT shoe.
But you have explained it many times to us so review your posts and see what you can come up with. I think the calming effect of the HRT might be your safest approach.
Huggs
Bobbi