[stefanie_s]

Hi Julie!

Although your questions seem straightforward, under closer inspection they are not so easy to answer, because I am not able to tell what other people around me think. But I'll try to answer your questions as good as I can.

Q: Who of us here can still actually pass as a Man?

I still pass as a man. And not only that I pass, but I am consistently gendered as a male. I am not being addressed as female. Sometimes I have feeling like some people are staring at me and giving me the second and third look, but it can be just my imagination. To be honest I would like to be gendered as a woman and this is something I wait for before I try to consciously present as a female outside, but it is not happening.



Q: Are the girls difficult or painful to hide ?
Well, if I consider strangers, no one is staring at my chest. If I consider acquaintances, no one is commenting. Therefore I think *they* are easy to hide. 

Q: Can you switch easily Man to Woman ?
At home and in front of some family members I am basically behaving as a woman. But outside I am presenting exclusively as a man. Although I have to admit that my mannerism and behavior patterns are more and more feminine. At this point, "switching" is not a problem.

Q: Do you just present as Andro ?
I would like to, but it is not so easy. I think that achieving androgynous look for AFAB people is easier than for AMAB.

Q: Do you now live as a Woman mostly but say for official functions or family go to back to Male ?
With the exception of secrecy of my home, my gender therapist and support group I present as a male. And I am not able to find a courage to do otherwise :-( .

E.

PS: Sofia! I am glad to see you back. I've missed you...

Try walking with one foot in front of the other as if you are walking a line down the middle of the street.  It's harder than you think if you are a man.  Once you master that, you will always be noticed as a woman.