[Dianna1395]

Thank you Dianna, that was very informative. I will need to research some of the names you put in there to see how I can integrate any of them into my daily life.

I, like you, have little time to exercise because I work in an office 9.30 - 6 plus 1 hour and half commute and, since I recently became a father, my free time is down to almost nothing. Ergo, no gym. I guess that the diet will be where I'll make the most of the changes.
I currently walk at least 2.0 miles per day (I know it's not much) and I have to organise my day to be able to do something else without stealing time from my family.


Thank you for the advices on what NOT to do. Those are definitely useful. The last thing I want is to lose the growth I got; if anything I hope that losing some belly will have the effect of "tightening" my skin and help a tiny bit with projection.

Shiraz

P.s. good one on the "high heel exercise". I wish I could do that. The wife doesn't have many problems at home with my heeling, but a 7 months old baby and narrow stairs are not playing in my favour. Also, shoe makers seem to thinkg that people with large feet (size 9 or 10 UK / 12 US) don't deserve "stealth mode" wedge shoes.

Shirazmn,
I think we're on the same page WRT foot size.
But there are ways to make them smaller with training, mostly by stretching. For Stealth heels, you'll need to work out a way to nest heels inside work boots. I saw it done once, you need to put the female heels inside male work boots, and if you go cheap, you can easily make some on the stealth side. Just "grow" an inch or so every few months. $20 (US) workboots and $20 heels, even if you need to do so over time, it'll work for you, and might even be aggressive to go only a few months. But the heel itself is hidden in the boot... 

I'm a size 11.
The stretches are going to take years, but: lock the toes and press up against something, like a desk panel or drawers. Repeat frequently. Hold for at least 30 seconds.
Over time, the arch will become more pronounced (which is more feminine), and the "footprint" will shrink. Younger is better for this...  ;-) But we go to life with the time we've got.  :-)

One thing, a real problem depending on your objectives -
to get "masculine":
Train hard and heavy
Train frequently
Full body + lots of activity

To get "feminine":
Jogging especially (Eats lean body mass)
aerobic workouts (hour or so; not the walking above)
Body building routines to target
          Gluteals, especially Gluteus Medius (Dirty Dawgs / Fire hydrants)
          Pectoralis (Use Decline Bench Press)
          SOME shoulder development (wider shoulders offset waist, but we don't want to overdo; depends on your current development, you might want to do strength training here)
          Do Squats, Pull throughs, Dirty Dawgs; maybe make a lower-body circuit, with a set of decline benches and ab exercises. (My target in my dream world where I have time.)
                    For the squats, need to look at Sumo Squat / Sumo Deadlift; and kneeling squats, so the emphasis stays on the butt, not the legs.

If that program 3 days a week gets going to build the proper spots, and then you use jogging and walking (say, burn fat by fasted HH walking and side walking for an hour or so), and then jogging on the "off" workout days - should limit and reverse muscle growth in those male areas, and keep / gain in the female areas - making a big difference in a 6 month to year period.
Then drop the jogging, and count on PM to minimize "bad" muscle growth. (Remember though that as you get older, you'd lose muscle anyway, and that gets you fat - loss of LBM = weak body, and osteoporosis if not managed with load-bearing exercises. Need to think long-term, and we humans aren't good at that.  ;-)   )

I'm thinking I might be able to make a program, if I had time for the next year.  :-)

But to "stay male" and look femme, you need to change it up even more, and go to calisthenics and volume. I don't know enough about that...  But you can go to YouTube and look up strength tests or "strength wars" I think it is, and they pit weighlifters and bodybuilders against calisthenics guys often enough that you can see: weighlifters, etc, dominate - but cannot do the moves a calisthenics expert can pull off.  E.G., Dragon Flag, or Parkour practitioners - and those guys (and girls) are ripped, too, but not the same solid body content. Not massive meat mountains. But can move their body all over the place!

If I can figure out THAT part, and make a short, ugly, resistance training set, that would be golden. 

Unfortunately the paying part of life is a demanding IT job...  :-)

-Dianna