02-12-2016, 10:50 AM
Thanks so much 
After a talk with my wife last night, I`v decided that I`m not going to have the papers signed until She tells me that it`s OK, but She has until my 50`th Birthday (May next year) at which point I will have to do it regardless (50 years is enough already!), She`s happy with that now
She made a good point, that although she Is willing and happy to stand by me through this journey, some things will take some time to adjust to the idea first, and me bringing these events that we`ve discussed Forwards all the while isn`t giving her time to adjust mentally, I think it`s a fair point.
I think that when you absolutely Know that your Trans* and that your Brain (and Heart) really IS that of a different gender than your assigned one, there`s a real sense of urgency (esp for us older Trans* folks), and that can lead to other feeling like they`re being left in the dust as you race ahead to correct this mistake.
it needs a lot of understanding on Both sides, Yes it`s very frustrating Knowing that you`re "trapped" in the wrong body like some kind of Freaky Friday body-swap nightmare, and it does make you want to go crazy and shout Why Isn`t anythjing being done about this! it`s a REAL Thing! this should be headline news!!!
and for whatever reason it`s just hidden, and very few Do actually understand what it`s like, so it`ll take them time to catch up with us.
so yeah, Frustrating but understandable
After a talk with my wife last night, I`v decided that I`m not going to have the papers signed until She tells me that it`s OK, but She has until my 50`th Birthday (May next year) at which point I will have to do it regardless (50 years is enough already!), She`s happy with that now
She made a good point, that although she Is willing and happy to stand by me through this journey, some things will take some time to adjust to the idea first, and me bringing these events that we`ve discussed Forwards all the while isn`t giving her time to adjust mentally, I think it`s a fair point.
I think that when you absolutely Know that your Trans* and that your Brain (and Heart) really IS that of a different gender than your assigned one, there`s a real sense of urgency (esp for us older Trans* folks), and that can lead to other feeling like they`re being left in the dust as you race ahead to correct this mistake.
it needs a lot of understanding on Both sides, Yes it`s very frustrating Knowing that you`re "trapped" in the wrong body like some kind of Freaky Friday body-swap nightmare, and it does make you want to go crazy and shout Why Isn`t anythjing being done about this! it`s a REAL Thing! this should be headline news!!!
and for whatever reason it`s just hidden, and very few Do actually understand what it`s like, so it`ll take them time to catch up with us.
so yeah, Frustrating but understandable